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writes:There is this woman who has been a friend of mine for 10 years. I'm not sure why she told me about a good sex dream she had with me a while back. Today she planted a very nice kiss on my lips. Todays kiss was way more than the usual quick hug and kiss hello or good by. It was passionate, in front of a lot of people, and was noticed by my friends. She turned me down for dating a few years ago. Now she does this to me? Am I missing something here? Could she have become attracted to me now? I'm lost, I'm not sure whats on her mind. Her kiss was way over the top for any friend. Could this be her signal for me to ask her out again? Sex talk has happened in the past with no answer either way and has never happened with us. She's not an easy person to read but what she's said and that kiss are getting steamy. Would it be best for me to let her know I've become very attracted and see what she says? Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 I agree with both the anonymous poser and huneygirl.
The chase usually consists of three distinctive behaviors:
1. She/He does not like you at all.
2. She/He is playing hard to get (wants you to chase her/him).
3. She's/He's simply busy.
The challenge is, which one is it? They all have the same or very similar effects on the chaser. The problem is many people give up on their love interest, where, if they were just a little more patient could have had them in their arms. The key is to chase in moderation!
For you, in your circumstance, I think there is definitely something there with your friend, true love blooms from friendship and these loves are the type that tend to last forever, you know, like our grandparents.
You have already been very moderate in the way you interacted with her since you first declared your love for her and because of your kindness, friendship and patience, a flower is growing. what you are experiencing is the VERY VERY rare relationship between a man and a woman that is very beautiful. A good example of this are the Benjamin Button and Forrest Gump films - both have a man and a woman who are friends, they love each other but never tell one and other or make it obvious, until something eventually does happen to them. These relationships are the very best of love that life has to offer and you are very luck to be experiencing this right now.
So be there for her always, let her make the moves and make some back! But never make it to obvious, your care, nurture and attention to her is all she needs to know that your interested.
I wish you the very best :)
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (21 January 2009):
 Some women like to play hard to get. Some men ask women on dates, they turn them down. Ask again, turn them down again. The asking finally stops. Vice versa. Some women are wondering why have he stopped asking me on dates or he isn't paying attention to me. She wants you to come after her, chase her. So, if you are willing to do so, by all means. Or you can play hard to get yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): I would tell her how you feel and see what she says. Be careful though she may just want to mess around since she doesn't have anyone at the moment, and since she knows you like her and are convient she may end up hurting you.
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