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writes: I'm feeling very low. I broke up with my boyfriend last night. I feel very insecure about myself, especially since I've always been told I'm ugly. And now I feel stupid. My sister and I both participated in an essay contest. And she won! She always WINS! And I always come up second (well int his case not even second, there was only one prize). She was even born first. She always got a lot of medals back in high school, soooo easily, while I worked my butt off doing different things and I've never got anything! You may think I'm being childish and stupid, but I wish I'd win something at least once to feel the taste of victory. I hate losing, especially to her. She's now all happy and my parents are soo marvelled because she won this prize while I feel miserable because I worked my brains off writing the stupid essay, for nothing. Plus I'm single now and I miss him so much.I feel miserable. It's Friday and I have nothing to do at night, plus next week I have many exams and papers to turn in! I'm so tired.Sorry if I sound all bitchy and whiney, but I just need to vent, since I can't tell this to anyone because I feel embarrassed about admitting that I'm envious of my sister winning the contest, makes me think they will think I'm evil. Plus my boyfriend. Ex. I miss him, I haven't stopped thinking about him. I don't feel motivated to do anything, I just feel worthless.What can I do? I'm sick of university already...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Everyone has someone who is better at something than them. There always will be in the world. It's just that you have one person better than you, that you know personally. Isn't it better to be second than first all the time? If you win all the time then whats the point in trying? Its better to have a goal to work towards. I work my ass off in university and there is always someone who beats me, i don't resent them for it, i know they've worked just as hard as me. I just strive to be better next time. I always come 2nd - 4th in grades. Always something short somewhere, but its a learning experience. Be thankful for what you've got. Do you think the people below you just poofed an essay out of thin air as well? They would have worked hard and they might have felt they were unjustly marked also. Be glad you came in second! i bet any one of them wouldve loved to have been in your shoes!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 You've already won. You will always be the best you that you can be. No one can beat you at that.
Be proud of who you are. Don't live your life in the shadow of others. Doing so leads to these disappointments. Going from now to comparing your marriage, your job, and to coworkers. What kind of life is that? As I look back, I was jealous of a few people who seemed to have it easier than I did. Now, comparing myself to where they are would not be the best. One that comes to mind is now spending 3 years for beating his wife. Things change and people change, but what doesn't change is what you accomplish for yourself.
My advise to you, as I've said that you've already won, is to be the best you that you can be. What you do in uni affects the rest of your life. If you give up because you're feeling as if you're loosing a competition, that the one who's going to be hurt long term will be you also.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 You are good as you are... say it always to your self.. Im good as I am... The greatest love of all" by whitney houston' try to listen to this song...
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reader, robisahorriblecrash +, writes (19 June 2009):
 everyone is envious of a person who excels at areas that they themselves fall short... so don't be so judgemental of yourself for being envious of your sister. and as for the boyfriend thing, it's only been a day the pain of breaking up hasn't worn off, it will take time. and i'm sure you're not ugly so stop being hard on yourself. it's firday night find something to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Don't compare yourself to your sister! just stop. I got a older sister and if I compared myself to her...I go crazy! So stop, you're your own person and everyone has their up and downs in life. Maybe you should tell her how you feel and you two can talk about it?
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