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My girlfriend seems really knowledgeable about sex and I am worried she will laugh when she sees my penis!

Q.   Dear Cupid, Ive recently met this girl and shes ready to have sex, shes let it be known that she wants to but im not sure, theirs multiple reasons but one of the larger reasons is because my penis is sort of thick but only 5.5" i don't know what ...

A.   24 March 2011: its not he size of the wave that is important its the motion in the ocean, and 5 5 is very normal, anyway she is going out with you for you and if she laughs at your bits then laught at hers see how she feels!... (read in full...)

His actions don't match his words!

Q.   Im in a relationship with a guy who is older. He is 7 years older than me. We have being 'dating' for the last 4 month now. It defo just dating still as I only see him a couple of nights a week.He never takes me out through the day and ive never met ...

A.   1 March 2011: He is messing with your head relationships are not this hard or complicated, go and be with someone who loves you and wants to spend time with you.... (read in full...)

When did I conceive?

Q.   I need to work ou the date i concieved i had sex on 15th 17th and 20th Novemeber the 1st day of my period was 1st November and my cycle varies from 31 days to 36 is there any way of knowing?...

A.   30 November 2010: the midwife will take it from the 1st day of your last menstrual cycle, 1st November, you can only see the midwife at 9 weeks for her to take all your details family history and bloods then on your 12 week you go for a dating scan and they measure ... (read in full...)

Relationship advice for gay 14 year olds.

Q.   Hello, I am a gay 14 year old boy who has NO idea how to get a boyfriend. I recently moved and I know no one at all. I know it sounds a little inconsistent, but I really want a boyfriend. Are online relationships a bad idea? Thanks for you advice....

A.   12 November 2010: online relationships are not a bad idea but i would be very wary of who is out there, as you are only 14 and still finding your sexuality there is alot of older men online who will prey on you and you do not want this. what hobbys are you into? ma... (read in full...)

Found out husband talks to co-worker about us, now I don't trust him!

Q.   so i recently found out my husband of 8yrs but weve been together 15 talks about our problems 2 a female coworker complaining about things and me. he didn't tell me about her i had 2 play detective,he says she is attracting they are just friends ...

A.   12 November 2010: trust is not an easy thing to be won, he should be talking ot you not another women about his problems, i went through the same thing with my ex and it hurt so much that even when he wasnt doing anything i jum,ped down his neck, what you need ot ... (read in full...)

What words can I use to express to my boyfriend how sexy his voice is?

Q.   So my boyfriend has a really sexy voice and whenever we are talking on the phone he voice just puts me to sleep cos it feels really good to my ears.. And it takes a lot to make me sleep. So we were thinking of names for what his voice does to me. ...

A.   17 September 2010: your voice is orgasmic when i hear your voice i explode in my pants!!! lol... (read in full...)

If someone ignores you does that mean that they like you?

Q.   Apparently a method of telling someone you like them without saying anything is by ignoring/not talking to them. To what extent is this true and is this a popular method to use when you like someone? And is there any way at all if you can ...

A.   16 September 2010: no ignoring someone does not mean you like them the only way you will know if they liek you is to talk to them.... (read in full...)

Friend flirting too much with my boyfriend?

Q.   Hi there, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, and we are really happy with each other, everything between us is perfect. But our friend, who flirts around a LOT, has many guys like her and who has liked my boyfriend before, keeps flirting ...

A.   16 September 2010: tell her that she is stepping out of line my mates would never do that if they were my mates so i dont think she should be. tell her it upsets you she is understands or doesnt.... (read in full...)

I can't stop eating! Pregnant?

Q.   Hi everyone, Ok here goes; recently I have been feeling a little strange. For starters I cannot stop eating! I am always hungry. I had no idea why, i'm quite a small girl and I dont usually eat a lot, but right now I literally cannot seem to fill ...

A.   16 September 2010: take a test now, sometimes the more you think you are pregnant the more you imagine the syptoms the syptoms can be a number of things, dotn panic or worry take a test and find out keep me updated. x... (read in full...)

After a yeast infection I get a burning sensation during sex!

Q.   So, I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. About a month ago, I had to go in for a pap test and my doctor said I had a yeast infection. He gave me pills and creme for it and It healed up and my itching, burning, etc. ...

A.   10 September 2010: i didnt say you got it from him if you had the yeast infection to start with you can transfer it to each other a yeast infection is a underlying infection and can come out when strssed or if you have o much caffiene or use a saop in your private ... (read in full...)

After a yeast infection I get a burning sensation during sex!

Q.   So, I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. About a month ago, I had to go in for a pap test and my doctor said I had a yeast infection. He gave me pills and creme for it and It healed up and my itching, burning, etc. ...

A.   8 September 2010: well firstly even if you have got rid of the yeast infection and you are having unprotected sex he we still have it and keeps passing it onto you so the best thing is to get him checked and cleared also the lube and condoms that you are using might ... (read in full...)

Scared of sex but wanting a child, can I become pregnant by injecting my husband's semen?

Q.   I am scared of proper sex and in my house everyone want baby, So my husband fill his sperm in a dropper and put it in my vagina..........is it possible that in this way i can become pregnant?...

A.   11 August 2010: if you are scared of sex how do you think having a baby will be for you the child will be a size of a watermelon coming out of a lemon... (read in full...)

My cheating boyfriend says he loves me and wont do it ever again, but why is he still talking to the other woman?

Q.   This is a real messed up situation. Just found out my boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me. I want to forgive him and want to believe him that he is doing everything in his power to be more committed to me, but the facts are not adding up. What do ...

A.   9 August 2010: im sorry to say this but he is having his cake and eating it! ... (read in full...)

Feel threatened by husband's friend; working in the same office. Found incriminating texts on his phone. Are they more than friends?

Q.   I am a 26 yr old woman married for the last 2.5 years. My husband is great friends with this another woman whom he knows since before he met me. I would call this woman M in the rest of the email. 'M' and my husband 'A' used to work together in a ...

A.   3 August 2010: he is cheating on you sorry to be blunt, but you are his wife not her you need to confront your husband and ask him are you having an affair? it sounds to me that he is, going and taking the call in another room if this was innocent he would le... (read in full...)

Should I send him a friend request on facebook?

Q.   I used to like this guy who i met when i went for a night out on my birthday two years ago. He was the friend of one of my relatives friends ( my relative didnt know him very well ) and there was a big group of us that were out. I met up with him ...

A.   23 July 2010: best thing to do is flirt with him poke him if he pokes back that means he is interested carry this on then he might ask who you are or you could say so do you like to poke me! cheeky, then you could throw in that didnt we meet one time in a club i ... (read in full...)

Missed period, Virgin

Q.   I am 18 years old and have not had sex. My period is about 67 days late and I am freaking out! I have been trying to do some research on why it might be like this. I have been regular since I started when I was 14. I haven't felt stressed at all ...

A.   22 July 2010: you are stressing regarding the non show of your periods which in turn is making it not appear. make a visit to your doctor there could be an underlying problem that you may not be aware of it is better to be safe then sorry when your health is ... (read in full...)

I think I might be pregnant, can't tell parents, can't go to the doctor!

Q.   I have a feeling i might be pregnant. I recently had unprotected sex - with my now ex-boyfriend - but he did not ejaculate inside me. I know that this is not a safe way of contraception, but it just happened and it is the only time it ever hap...

A.   22 July 2010: firstly you have had unprotected sex with a guy this is how you get STIs always use protection secondly if you have done home pregnancy tests then you are not pregnant thirdly your mates are right stop stressing as this makes your periods alo... (read in full...)

Theoretical question: Which of the 2 scenarios is worse?

Q.   This is more of a theoretical question! Which of the following is worse: 1. Being in a relationship with a man who makes you happy and you know you would have a happy life together BUT always wondering about what could have been with someone els...

A.   22 July 2010: the grass isnt always greener on the other side, but that said do you have that spark with the guy that you are with do you have a good sex life do you laugh like youve never laughed before? this ideal guy do you have all this with him? ... (read in full...)

Am I still a virgin?

Q.   Hi! IT's Been a long time since i'm asking myself that i was virgin or not!i still can't understand i haven't asked anyone yet.3 Years ago i had an infection in chanels of urine and it stinged a lot so i put my finger inside and when i pull ...

A.   22 July 2010: you are still a virgin what you have probably done is caught the wall of your vagina with your finger and it has bled, maybe the reason it was stinging alot is because you may have an infection like cysistus or thrush this is when there is to much ... (read in full...)

Does it seem like he likes me?

Q.   there is a man that works in a game shop that i go in. everytime i go in there and he is working he looks at me and smiles and comes over to see if i need help, and sometimes it is as soon as i walk in the shop. none of the other employees do that. ...

A.   22 July 2010: the only way to find out is to bite the bullet and ask him out, it definetley sounds like he fancies you xx... (read in full...)

My sister refuses to sleep in her own bed.

Q.   A couple of months ago, my Mum lost her job, and we had to move into a flat, which only has 2 rooms. This means I'm now sharing a room with my sister whos a year younger than me. We each have a bed, but she will only sleep in mine, and it's really ...

A.   21 July 2010: If you are having difficutly telling your sister how you feel tell your mum that you need your privacy.... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so poorly about myself?

Q.   I wish I had a boyfriend, I always feel the last few months especially that I am fat and ugly. I have put on a few pounds but nothing major but cause I have I feel not worthy of one. I know it sounds silly but I feel jealous of my ex's having ...

A.   20 July 2010: what you need is to go out with the girls, or get a hobby you sound like you are tranfixed on bieng lonely do you have a job?? what you need is to concentrate on other things then love will happen relax enjoy yourself and life will happen. hope ... (read in full...)

How can we make her parents understand our relationship?

Q.   I've been dating my current girlfriend for almost 4 months. The relationship has gone very well so far despite the fact that its strictly long distance. We met online, and since then we've only talked by email and on the site we met. We have ...

A.   9 July 2010: have you met each other yet?? i think her parents are woorried that as you have not met as yet you do not really know each other not saying your a horrible person but there are many men out there only after one thing. look at it from there vi... (read in full...)

Why didnt I bleed when I lost my virginity?

Q.   Is it normal if a girl loses her virginity and doesn't bleed and if she hasn't used tampons got fingered rode horses or played any sports of any kind?...

A.   9 July 2010: sometimes this happens i didnt bleed when i lost my virginity sometimes your body works this way.... (read in full...)

She probably likes me way more than a friend, right?

Q.   Every time I'm with my girl "best friend" she is very possessive, wants me to spend all of my attention on her and gets upset if I don't. Also she gets veeery jealous and upset if I so much as look at another girl she'll bring out "why don't you g...

A.   9 July 2010: honesty is the best policy if you dont broach the subject she will only think you like her back, i would sit her down and talk to her that her behaviour is making you uncomfortable and what will happen when you do have a gf! ... (read in full...)

B/f said he "kind of cheated"

Q.   Hi everyone, Im a bit confused...basically i have been with my bf for 3 and a half years-in this time we have had an open honest relationship. he was my best friend for years when we were at school and since returning from uni we have been together...

A.   8 July 2010: firstly yes men can be raped i agree with the rest of the aunts, i would stay with him its the past things like that happen when drunk, what kind of women goes after a man being sick yack she sounds like a dirty old ho and prob out her trolley! he ... (read in full...)

Should I even try to make this relationship work?

Q.   Ok so I met my ex through my best friend because her bf is really good friends with him. We had a connection right away but I put off hanging out with him for awhile because I was unsure about getting into another relationship. But no matter how ...

A.   8 July 2010: he has ignored you get over it find yourself a man not a boy! :)... (read in full...)

Do I still have a hymen?

Q.   I had sex for the first time, and I bled a little bit, but we were interrupted and didnt finish, so is my hymen still intact a bit? because it was still hurting then and it hurt next time to have sex too. so have i broken my hymen or might it still ...

A.   8 July 2010: your hymen has broken it can break just by cycling or riding a horse, the reason your tight is because you are not relaxed enough maybe get some lube and extra foreplay will help this the more you worry about the hymen situation the more your body ... (read in full...)

Married but fantasising about sex with a woman.....

Q.   im happily married but there one thing on my mind when im alone i watch lesbian porn it really turns me on and i masterbate when i watch it i dont watch it that often but does this mean im a lesbian? i have always wonder what it be like to have sex ...

A.   8 July 2010: i think there is nothing wrong with this alot of women your age fantisize about new and exciting lifes and as you have never been with a women you are curious, there is no harm in masterbating maybe involve your husband to spice up your love life! ... (read in full...)

I want to leave my girlfriend but have such strong feelings for her?!!!

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for just over 2.5 years now. We moved in together after only 6 months as my Dad was moving away and she had no place at her parents after she moved away with her ex. My issues started early on as she had been mis-trea...

A.   8 July 2010: take a break from each other you soundlike you need to get your head together, i would tell her how you feel and tell her that her insecurities are making you depressed its not nice when a relationship gets over shadowed by the past.... (read in full...)

He cheated because he was drunk and I cant get over it!

Q.   Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months...we started going out sept.7, 2009 and its now June.30, 2010... Back in Feburary he decided to throw a small party when his mother was away and get drunk...( one girl and 4 guys) well ...

A.   1 July 2010: i agree whole heartly with taste of india he is a scumbag you are young and you dont wantot settle with a boy who treats girls like that!... (read in full...)

Why have my periods not gone back to normal after I have stopped taking my birth control pill?

Q.   i stopped taking my birth control pill about a year now and my periods seem not to be back on track and i thought i was pregnant but i took a test back in january and it was negative. if i would of been i would be 8 months and i know for a fact im ...

A.   28 June 2010: Hello dont worry i was the same for 2 years my periods wre all over the place one one month then nothing for 6 months, its the chemicals in the pill that have screwed your natural balance up in your body go to the doctor i think they can give you... (read in full...)

Violent end to an argument this morning, what do I do?

Q.   i have to ask this question, even though i know what people will reply. really early this morning my partner of 7 years and i had an argument, i was getting ready for work, and we argued, which basically led to him hitting me on the head with a m...

A.   28 June 2010: hello i know you dont want to hear this but you need to see that this isnt right my ex hit me and after i confided in my mum i got out of there becuse once you are married got children it makes it harder to leave, if he loved you then he wouldnt ... (read in full...)

Is this light period, my period- or a sign of pregnancy?

Q.   Ok so me and my fiance have been using the pull out method for aslong as I can remember,were not trying for a baby but if it happens it happens,we would both love a child and be very happy,anyways I always have a regualr period and came on my period ...

A.   15 June 2010: yes is the answer if you are using the pull out method then you could be, i think you need to go to the sexual health clinic and have a word with them they will be able to talk to you regarding this, also i think you are probably stressing yourself ... (read in full...)

Tell me about an aries-sagittarius relationship please..

Q.   Hi! I am sagittarius girl. My boyfriend is aries. He is too strange. Sometimes he is warm and deep, and says he loves me, sometimes he doesn't text me and says he is busy.He plays some mental games with me. I don't know whether he cheats me. Is ...

A.   14 June 2010: break up with him its not the star sign its the person and he sounds like a player and a dick, get out of there before its too late and find yourself a guy who treats you with the respect you deserve. ... (read in full...)

I don't want to end the relationship but I want him to stop being mean and texting other girls!

Q.   hey there i have quite the problem and i have no clue what to do about it...my bf well hes a jack ass but he can be so sweet too... two weekends ago i found out the three times during our relationship he texted a girl he had sex with before dating ...

A.   8 June 2010: hello lif3sucks, speaking from alot of experiences with dicks i would say dump him so what if he is nice sometimes, you want someone to treat you like the princess you are all the time not just when he feels like it. and to text his ex sexu... (read in full...)

My boyfriend lied to me, do I tell him I know?

Q.   On saturday i was hanging out with my boyfriend and he asked me what i was doing that night, i assumed that i would be with him that night because he had gone out with his friends the night before. But he said that he was going out for dinner with ...

A.   30 April 2010: firstly if you are doubting whether or not he is lying to your face he prob is. he sounds young and immature and he starts these fights as he knows that you have caught him out, you need to concerntrate on yourself and go out with your mates and ... (read in full...)

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