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My Sister In Law obsession? But harmless? pls Help!

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Question - (16 October 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 October 2011)
A male Australia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I never thought it would come to this point where i need to just unload it all on paper

or typing so to speak.

I am 26 i am single, and i've known her since i was a kid, about 8-9 years old, Now i will type it all as it has unfolded and things that have just made an impact on me, and maybe if i have a sexual disorder or a very high sex drive.. When i first started masterbating i was 10 years old which yes it is quite young now when i think of it, But when i started it was a lot from what i remember. When she used to live with us she would have her dirty laundry in the basket i would go in there looking at her underwear (g-strings) etc, and i would smell them and hold it over my penis and masterbate, There was a couple of times when we went to look at display homes with the family i would be with her and she had shorts on and i could see her underwear lining (not a lot) but i noticed it. And i felt myself getting erect and i would "accidently" bump into her bum just to feel it and be close to it and what a rush i was feeling. and only being so damn young! She is a very beautiful sicilian background woman, I think i also got my foot fetish cause of her, Cause i would find myself looking at her feet and toes and just thinking how beautiful they were nice and clean, very soft feet well looked after and to this day i always have a look at her feet. Now yes she is married to my brother, There is a 10 year age difference, they're 36/37 soon. They've been married for a while and have 2 beautiful kids that I just love and adore. But as she's gotten a little older she's becoming more and more beautiful but she always was, mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Beautiful eyes, a smile that is just amazing, nice tanned skin and looks healthy. We were talking about dieting and working out not too long ago sitting next to each other we made a lot of eye contact (as u do when u talk to someone) And i was just in AWE (sp?) of her beautiful voice, eyes and smile i just wanted to tell her how beautiful she is.. Now she is married and i think she is quite happy of course but something tells me she is missing something like that spark again, hearing she is beautiful externally and internally, Tell her she has beautiful big brown eyes, tell her she has beautiful hair etc, It seems like she doesn't get that much anymore and i will be honest, it does bother me.

I personally do not think i could actually go through with saying anything or acting on anything, But this is when this thought came to my mind and it is just driving me insane, I am a leo i am a leader, i like risks, i am curious, i am just a kind of man who wants to know things then and there without games. Basically it came to my mind if she came to visit us one day i would pretend i did not hear her and have her see me masturbating and wanting to see her reaction, what she would say and do, And i would like to be closer to her as in 1 on 1 time (not in that way) But to hint little things to her..

Now i just would make hints that i find her attractive, that she turns me on, and i respect the fact that she is obviously married to my brother, but i just want her to see something or hear something and see her reaction, I dont know what has gotten over me the past few months but she has been driving me insane :( (in a good way) I thought a good way to get this crap out of my system without crossing the bounderies is by doing this,

when family is visiting etc tell her behind closed doors that i need to speak with you about something and it is something i am only really comfterble telling u about cause im sure u can relate and i trust u and u wont judge and go repeat anything to anyone,

And mention to her my sexual desires lately have been killing me my sex drive is way too high and its lead me into come questions that im concerned about and want to talk to u about it, And tell her bout my masterbating habits, and things that i fantaize over (wont say her directly) but just do little hints and have a laugh about it, and basically just ask her what does she think about this sort of thing or that, and about the foot fetish that i got from her i will tell her that without question, But i just want to see bit of an sexual side to her and i want her to know a bit about mine, without doing anything sexual with her directly... she is a beautiful woman and i just want to have a bond with her without crossing the boundaries, and i definitely will not and i know she wouldn't but if its talking and harmless norty talk by asking her to come for a drive have things i need to tell u that i can only tell u as i trust u, a good way to find out a bit more and let her see a bit of my side and well having her know that a younger attractive man finds her so beautiful and sexy internally and externally even though she's had 2 children (toddlers) and has someone like me making her feel sexy again?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011):

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Hi guys, I've taken all your answers into deep account and have taken the advice, And have gotten her out of my mind and im glad i did, as family is more important!

Thank you all!

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (16 October 2011):

aunt honesty agony auntNo no no and no. This is not a good idea at all. Believe me. She is your SISTER IN LAW she is the mother of your NIECES or NEPHEWS. You need to get this woman out of your head sexually before you tear up a family. You say it is harmless to you to share sexual conversations with her, but no it is not safe at all, not when you have feelings for her that go beyond friendship. I'll tell you what if you had her walk in on you masturbating, I am telling you now her reaction would be embarrassment. She probably wouldn't know what to say or how to act and she would not be able to look at you in the eye.

I understand that you respect she is married to your brother, therefore let them get on with there life and you get on with yours. Go out and look for a woman of your own who you can spoil and talk dirty to and care for. This woman is taking by your brother, and although you might think that these are harmless things, it will be a dangerous path you chose to go down. Therefore now you need to stop thinking about her when you are masturbating. You need someone new to put your thoughts to. Go out socialise with friends meet new woman and see how things go. You need to keep your distance from your sister in law until you get over her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2011):

OKAY

Stay the heck away from her. Find another Italian girl to lust over. This is your sister in law and your being disrespectful to your brother. Control yourself better! There are loads of Latina's/Spanish/Italian/dark girls around, go find one elsewhere.

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