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*attie90
writes:hi i need all the help i can get my boyfriend tells me that im beautiful and very attractive and he cant ever take his eyes off of me but ive seen pictures of his exs and some of them are like pornstar hot and he tells me that im beautiful but when he says that i think of myself as very ugly because of how hot his exs are i have no selfesteem i have a hard time trusting guys because my dad beat me and people tell me or show me how ugly i am by throwing up in front of me after saying i was ugly its happened. my self esteem is so low that i cant even look at myself in the mirror if i do i brake down and start crying what can i do i want to feel pretty but i dont because of all the negative comments i get my boyfriend doesnt even say that im beautiful anymore he used to say it all the time now he doesnt. what should i do?
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reader, mattie90 +, writes (17 April 2008):
mattie90 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I need more responses because i think its getting worse a few days ago he told me that he was in a position that guys dont ever want to be in a relationship he told me that he was in his i want to f*** every hot girl stage because hes been with me 4 10 months and that also makes me feel low about my self i feel that im not good enough for him or that im not pretty enough for him
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reader, xxtinkerbellxx  +, writes (17 April 2008):
Well firstly i agree with the other writer he wont say it now because its a waste of breath if you wont beleive him..and if he liked his exs so much do you think he'd be with you now...Think of it that way he picked you over them and in my point of view Blondes that try hard 2 look plastic and like are like barbies are the most unatractive thing iv ever seen they all look the same...[The past is over live for NOW life is to short to woory about things that happened years ago....]So make a plan and take it step my step to get your confidance back..1:go get your hair done or go 2 a spa and pamper your self2:buy some make-up or even just a nice lip gloss3:do some shoppin which nearly all girls love, and go with a mate and get her to pic you out a flirty yet a respectable outfit and ask your bf out 2 dinner and show your making an effort to boost your confidance..Gauranteed he'll see what your trying to do and start calling you beautiful and tellin you he loves you again..[Forget about his exs and dont compare yourself to them if he wanted them he'd still be with them today and his not so]anyway i hope i helped some so get back to me on the advise and if i helped any and tell me how you get on...xxxx~*~TINKERBELL~*~xxxx
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 April 2008):
He might have stopped saying it because he felt there was no point, because you won't believe him.
You have been bullied in the past but so have lots of us. You can't let your past dictate your life or we would all still be in nappies. You have obviously blossomed into a beautiful woman.
You have a boyfriend ho loves you. You need to start acting confident even if you don't feel it. Tell yourself that your bf doesn't want to be with a terrified mouse. Buy a nice lipstick or gloss and wear it every day. Tell yourself that even if you don't agree with him, he thinks you are gorgeous or he wouldn't be with you.
You say his ex's look like porn stars. In my view plastic blonde porn stars are not pretty. They all look the same. Maybe he doesn't want a girl who looks like a whore, maybe he wants a girl who looks like you.
I know the mirror is your enemy but force yourself to look in it and play with your hair and make up. Find something you like and then focus on that.
The most attractive thing in a girl is confidence, so fake it and eventually it will come for real.
You are living in the NOW, not your past.
Good Luck!! xx
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