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writes:Been with my girlfriend for 2 years. I just told her that I found us to be boring because frankly everything has been soo plain and a routine. I told her these exact same words and she said "well what are you gonna do" in a way like if she has no plans to change how I feel and it were totally up to me to do what I wish. Well I also find myself constantly looking at other woman and imagine me being with her cuz i now feel annoyed having to be with my girlfriend. I love her but....it's sooo boring. Physical contact is just basic (holding hands) and I've lost faith in my girlfriend and have no expectations for her to do something passionately or anything relating to the "love/physical" (I'm not referring to sex, I respect her) parts of the relationship. Things seem way tooooo basic for faaar toooo lonnngggg! Wat do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 February 2012):
 IF everything is so plain and boring then what are YOU doing to make it more exciting?
IF she is happy and content with the way things are why is it up to her to fix your problem? She’s right it is up to you to fix yourself.
IF you feel annoyed at having to be with her then it’s time to NOT BE WITH HER.
What you will learn with time is that life in general is routine and boring… you get up, you go to work, you come home, you eat dinner, do your chores, unwind, talk to your partner if you have one for a few minutes, maybe watch some tv, and go to bed to start the whole thing all over again the next day. If you are lucky you may get a kiss goodbye and a kiss hello when you get home.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 February 2012):
 You will find that most of life becomes a routine. Finding someone you love to share the routine of life is what it's all about.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (28 February 2012):
 'like if she has no plans to change how I feel and it were totally up to me to do what I wish'
Uh ohhh...crazy talk!!!
Reality check!!! SHE CAN'T CHANGE YOU...ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE YOU!!
"love/physical" (I'm not referring to sex, I respect her)'
Oh noooo!!! more crazy talk!!
Umm you are referring to sex because your whole post is referring to sex and you arn't really respecting her because you feel annoyed and frustrated with her and you arn't talking to her about it.
Reality check!! You need to understand that maybe she isn't ready to have sex yet (everyone is different)and it isn't her responsibility to 'service' you just because you are horny!!...get real.
You are both obviously in different places sexually and if it doesn't suit you then you need to end things with her and go find someone else to have sex with. You may find that a lot of young women around your age group might also wish to wait before rushing into sex so don't be surprised if you don't get what you want.
I respect you for posting here but you need to grow up a little and learn that people move at different speeds and all the frustrations you are feeling are not her fault.
Talk to her, if she isn't ready and you can't live with it...move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): If both of you really love each other, then the fact that there is less physical contact shouldnt bother you too much. But her attitude about it doesnt sound nice. If you hav lost faith in her, then I dont think things are ever going to work out because in a relationship, trust is everything!
Yes, 2 years is a fairly long period, but after 2 years, one would expect a relationship to be a lot better than how you describe it.
If you think the relationship is boring and you're actually getting annoyed because she is your girlfriend, then I guess its time to move on.
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