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*adie30
writes:I have been with my partner for 2.5 years, some of the time it has been great and others really hard, my partner was in a good job and lost it all thro drugs.. I made the choice to stand by him and help him thro it all but 18 months on it was still going on behind my back. For some strange reason i got in contact with my ex and we started texting, nothing has ever happened physically but i did meet him for a drink one night, i felt so guilty i told my partner and he has left me tongiht telling me he needs some space. What i dont get is that i always stood by him and was there for him, he has made so many mistakes but i just got on with it, i have made this one ( a big one i know) and he does this. I have tried to end it a few times with my partner because of the drugs but always took him back. Now after being in contact with my ex i realiaed that i love my partner so much and i want us to work thro all the problems. He says he needs space to get his headed sorted and i am just broken hearted. What do i do now
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reader, sadie30 +, writes (24 October 2008):
sadie30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you xx
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reader, sadie30 +, writes (9 August 2008):
sadie30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell guys, thanks for your advice, he came back late last night, we had a great talk and both got some things off our chests.We're making a go of it this time, and making it last. xx Thanks again xxxxxx
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reader, sadie30 +, writes (7 August 2008):
sadie30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know what i did was so wrong but i was so fed up with all he drugs and i suppose i looked for something normal, i dont understand why i chose to get in contact with my ex as i dont even think about him anymore, but i had a few drinks and picked up the phone. I have been the rock in our realtionship for so long, i need my partner to stand up and be tere for me at times, i have tried to say i am sorry for it and it meant nothing, it was nothing. i feel he is punishing me by doing this for making a mistake, i know i have hurt him so badly and i would do anything to take it back. But i cant. Thank you so much for your input it has made me feel slightly better, i know alot of what happened was thro his doing and if i was happy and felt stable in our realtionship i would not of done what i did. i hope your right tho and he comes back xx
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reader, sadie30 +, writes (7 August 2008):
sadie30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know what i did was so wrong but i was so fed up with all he drugs and i suppose i looked for something normal, i dont understand why i chose to get in contact with my ex as i dont even think about him anymore, but i had a few drinks and picked up the phone. I have been the rock in our realtionship for so long, i need my partner to stand up and be tere for me at times, i have tried to say i am sorry for it and it meant nothing, it was nothing. i feel he is punishing me by doing this for making a mistake, i know i have hurt him so badly and i would do anything to take it back. But i cant. Thank you so much for your input it has made me feel slightly better, i know alot of what happened was thro his doing and if i was happy and felt stable in our realtionship i would not of done what i did. i hope your right tho and he comes back xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): If he needs space, you should respect that and give it to him. Applying pressure will only drive him further away. Sometimes people need to take a step back from a situation to evaluate it clearly. Don't pressure him but be supportive and let him know you are there when he's ready. He may just be reacting out of anger here. Things might not be as dire as you believe them to be. Give him a chance to cool off and then ask to meet him for a talk. You can explain your side of things then. You didn't cheat. You just had an ill-advised drink. It would be a shame to throw away 2.5 years of devotion over a mistake. A lot of relationships experience pitfalls like this and survive. Good luck to you. Hopefully he will be reasonable and you two will be back together soon.
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reader, Shipwreckd  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Give him space. It's that old adage of "If you love something, set it free..."
Let fate play out. See what happens.
Good luck!
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