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writes:Hello everyone I have a little confusion going on...i want some advise from people that have gone through it or any wise suggestion. I'm in love with this guy ive been dating for 2 years...he means a lot to me. This person my family hates to death basically because we started with the "left foot" as they say... we got caught making out and my parents freaked out, also for Christmas my family invited him to a family reunion and we were all the time together which bothered my family very much, They also dont like the fact he is not as wealthy as us and when they met him he was working and not going to school...now he is..(my parents didnt understand not everyone is like us). One day I got caught at this house when i said i was going home.... They started not letting me go out, taking away my car so he could pick me up.. in the end... they made my life miserable... telling me he wasnt the guy for me.. Ive always been a good girl i do everything for my parents, but this one time i want to stand up for myself everything seemed bad to them. They said he CHANGED me....oh well..... i hid the relationship for 5 months. Got caught because my parents pay for my phone and they tracked my phone calls...I denied it and my parents tried to put a GPS in my car...in the end that didnt happen and ive hid my relationship for 8 months now. Weve had our arguments but we get a long soo good.....In the other hand my parents have been pushing me to meet new people guys etc...(NOT KNOWING IM DATING THE GUY THEY HATE TO DEATH)...I took a trip out of the country with some friends ( MY BF DOESNT KNOW) and i cheated on him with someone i really like.IDK if I'm doing the right thing.... I'm betraying my parents! they love me to death... I like a guy i think about often ..hes in the army came back from deploy and his base is in another state...we have a strong connection but the distance...is not worth it...im down here and hes up there...i would only see this person on get togethers of course not too often some vacations. I love my bf my family hates, i... I'm very confused... some of my friends say to keep the double date because I'm young I'm 23 and its all about meeting people and see where those relationships head. But Idk if thats right? what about my family? what would you do?
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 well i was the one hated from my fiance's side..all i can say it that if YOU love him and he loves you that's all that matters and who cares what your family thinks
stand up for yourself and for him!
i'm sure it is probably more awkward for him that it is you
and if they don't like it then they can "hit the road"
it is honestly natural for parents to HATE there daughters boyfriend if it isn't him then it's just going to be the next guy
they hate the fact that he is taking you away from them
your their baby girl and there afraid your making the wrong decisions
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