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writes:I have been dating this guy for a while. My parents don't like him cos he does drugs, which i don't do. Is there anyway that i can make them see that i like him for the laughs and the good times we have together? I feel that we are going to fall out permanetly if i don't sort this out.
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reader, Just a Girl...  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 The thing is huni, drugs never help a relationship, but they also shudnt be a reson to be put off either. Your partents hav every right to be concerned, but this is your relationship and as long as he is a gud guy and makes you happy, you do waht you feel comfortable with
take care hun xxxxxxx
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reader, honesty +, writes (8 May 2007):
you gotta understand your parents point of view they dont want u 2 take drugs aswell try to explain to your parents the good side of him even try to help him get off drugs
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (8 May 2007):
Your parents are right.
You shouldn't date a guy who does drugs. The same thing goes for dating someone who is an alcoholic, or a sexaholic, or any kind of person who is addicted to something unhealthy.
Just think about it... He may make all the synapses in your brain fire off in just the right sequence to push your happy buttons, but a chemical overload and euphoria are not the same thing as happiness and love.
Now, if you're really at the age you're at, and you have no dependents (children), then the choice is really yours. Tell your parents that you want to give this a try and that you appreciate them, but if this is a mistake, it is going to be your mistake.
But let's also be clear that drug users can be carriers for numerous STD's, and may live lifestyles that are dangerous and unhealthy for anybody emotionally tangled up with them. I've heard enough sob stories about girls with drug using boyfriends who cheat on them, steal from them, and who are abusive mentally and physically. It never starts off that way, and the girls a generally very good girls with lots of hope and love to give...
But I find myself repeating that one person can't love enough for two. He'll need to change, or you'll need to change, and if he's the more dominant personality, chances are you'll become the enabler to his addiction.
Or, if he's just a minor recreational drug user, then ask him to stop. If he can't stop, then he's obviously not the right person for you. But either way, insist on an STD screening (blood test).
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