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writes:Hi agony aunts,So like a ex team mate of mine is leaving to the US. And like I don't really like him because when I was 10 or 11, he kissed me, he basically stole my first kiss. Since then, I didn't really like talking or hanging our with him and I just cut off contact with him. So a day or two ago, he texted me to let me know that hes leaving on saturday and I replied wishing him the best of luck and we'll keep in touch. However, his mother called mine and told her about her son leaving and she mentioned to my mum saying her son told me. And my mum came into my room and asked me about it and said "oh yeah he did and i replied and wished him the best." then my mum told my dad that I didnt say anything about it and they made it such a big deal saying that I'm a "bad" person that I didn't tell them. I was like what in the world??? And like they know I don't really feel comfortable of like him and they make it a big deal. I feel like they're really hypocritical? Its like I can't like a guy without their approval kind of attitude. And like this guy took away smtg that seems quite important to me which is my first kiss. They like this guy and approve of him and it seems like whatever happened to me is not a big deal just because they like him. It's like my opinion/feelings are not important to them. I don't get why its so important about telling them that he's leaving. It's just unfair I suppose? and i think its a bit extreme saying that I'm a "bad" person for saying anything. Plus I've been busy lately with revising and spending time with my friends that are leaving. So yeah... their exact words were "You're so bad for not saying anything, just because you don't like someone." Its like omg he's leaving, thats good, he made it out there. Plus its not like his parents texted me right? This is just so annoying and I just think my parents are hypocritical. They dont care about my happiness honestly. I cannot date a guy that they've met and they approve of him too and he respects me and treats me the best out of all people and yet they don't approve of dating and all. Ugh... anyways what should I do about my parents reaction to me? It's just mean and just idk what to describe it.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 August 2015):
 If it were me, I'd try to ignore the whole thing and go about my business. You can't control or influence what others (parents included) think. They can think whatever they want. In the end it's only what you know and think about yourself that is impportant. stay true to yourself and you will always be secure in your own world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2015): It's not worth thinking about. Just let it go.
In regards to your first kiss - it was a childhood one, so it doesn't need to count and you shouldn't really hold a grudge about it for so long because he was a kid too. You'll know when you've had you *real* first kiss because it'll be with someone you care about.
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