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writes:Tomorrow is my 23rd birthday. I'm moving away soon, and this will probably be my last birthday in my mother's house. She only comes home on weekends, and leaves every Monday for work, so today we were supposed to celebrate. She claimed she didn't have time to get me a gift, and hasn't said 'happy birthday' or done anything to acknowledge that it's my birthday. Instead, she's been sleeping on the couch watching tv all day, and is now cleaning the house in preparation for my sister and her kids coming down next week! This is probably the 3rd time she's done this, where I've been crying on my birthday cause she flat out ignores me, and has all these other "more important" things to do. It's not fair, when both my brother and my sister get much more of a birthday than I have, and their both 42 and 43 years old! I don't really know what advice could help my situation, but I guess I needed to get this out of my system. :'( Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 April 2012):
 Go out and enjoy the day with friends and let your mom stay on the couch.
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reader, CuriousJaneDoe +, writes (2 April 2012):
I hope you throw yourself a fantastic birthday. It sounds like your mother has some issues and it's time to celebrate growing up and separating yourself from her. I know what it's like to go birthday after birthday not getting acknowledged or getting a card or present from my parents. I also know what it's like to be constantly hurt by my mother, and it's important to start living your own life and not letting her get you upset, otherwise she'll always have this power over you. Again, your mother's got issues...celebrate your emotional independence from her!
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 Yeah, we expect to be the special one just one day of the year, not too much to ask is it? If she's done it before, she'll do it again. You are entitled to have a huge whinge.
Hopefully this is the worst that life throws your way.
I hope you have a fantastic 23rd birthday.
And have a fabulous life. xx
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 just thank your lucky stars your moving away soon. you have every right to feel hurt & maybe she is hurting cos your moving - i hope you have time to talk build bridges before you leave as it would be best for you both to be open. Good luck xxx
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