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writes: About a year ago I had a relationship with this married guy. We slept together 3 times and we really cared for each other. Then he heard this rumor that I told on us, even though I didn't tell anybody. Then he stopped talking to me completely. That was a year ago and I still have these strong, deep feelings for him still, and I can't get over him. To make things worse, his wife gave him a divorce so he is single now, and that makes me want him even more. I'm driving myself crazy now. What should I do? Please give me an answer because I'm desperate for advice now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2005): i would go and look for him,i will when my mm decides he's had enough with his wife.good luck and take a chance.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (10 October 2005):
 Why did his wife give him a divorce? Perhaps because she couldn't trust him?
He stopped talking to you because he heard that you had let slip about your affair? I'm sorry, but it doesn't sound as if he cared a great deal, it sounds far more that he cared only for his well-being.
I think it would be a bad idea to try to get back with him but a good idea for you to do a bit of soul searching and to find out why you went with him in the first place. If you knew he was unobtainable, why were you attracted to him? Would you not prefer to meet someone who isn't committed to someone else and who you feel can be trustworthy?
So don't do anything. Let this guy be and go out and find someone else when you feel ready to do so. Remember that he was capable of having an affair instead of playing it the fair way. You wouldn't want him to do that to you so think very wisely about your next step with regards to getting in contact with him.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 October 2005):
 This is what you get for messing with a married man. He probably didn't "really care" about you to begin with. I hope you learned your lesson from this and have made the proper corrections to your lifestyle.
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reader, AuntieChrissy +, writes (10 October 2005):
Do you love him, or do you need him? If you just want him phsyically you're doing yourself no good at all. Build your way up from being his friend again. If he won't talk to you, remind him, you never told a soul.If he still won't talk to you, just leave it. You'll only embarass yourself if you take things further
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