| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: Dear CupidMy boss, who is older than me, has been giving off very confusing signals! When we have been alone he has been very close but nothing more. This evening as were leaving he said "We always seem to leave together; people will talk!" He is married.Was this a sign to back off or to encourage more between us. I am confused. Please help!Confused!! Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 October 2005):
 Hands off chickie, he's married. End of story.
A
reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (10 October 2005):
 It really doesn't matter what he was trying to say. Instead it is far more important what you do. You said he is married; there's your answer. Have nothing to do with him! He should not be encouraging you or even allowing you to think that perhaps he is encouraging you.
He is your boss, so already that is a boundary that he would be stepping over if he tried to begin an affair with you and the boundary you would be over stepping would be not considering his wife in all this and perhaps (if he has any) his children.
Take a huge step back and think long and hard about why you would even consider having an affair with a married man. Perhaps you would like the attention and this is understandable, particularly if you have low self-esteem.
You need to find ways to making yourself feel better and to building up your confidence.
Go out with friends, create a better social life. Do not allow yourself to be alone with your boss. Try to imagine how his wife would feel...
Think about this and find someone else.
...............................
A
female
reader, AuntieChrissy +, writes (10 October 2005):
I would say that this means he is interested in you. If you carry on recieving strong signals like these, you should tell him straight out if you are not interested
...............................
|
