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writes:I have my boyfriend for three years, he's married but no children, for 3 years of relationship with him I'm happy and i can say that am willing to live with him for the rest of my life, i really love him but suddenly i found out that before we met he has a girlfriend and they have kids 4yrs and 1yr+, its hard/hurt for me to accept, he explain and he still want us together. Please help me i love him so much but i cant complain its only in my heart. Please help me what i gonna do? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Hunny I no your culture is different, but I still stand by what I have written as adultery can still apply if and I hope Im right marraige has not taken place with the other women involved...Take care with love mandy xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Hi Hunny,
Your b/f is married I hope I have this all correct.
He has been seeing you for 3yrs and in between seeing some one else before you and has children.. Is he seperated from his wife or is he still with her as her husband? As if this is the case he has cheated twice on his wife not only cheated but had a family while doing this...
Now if I have got this wrong Im sorry as its a little hard to piece together.
If he is still married he should be honest with his wife as he is not happy she should no so she can move on with her life, The mother of his children how does she come into his life now as I would expect he wants to see his children.
This must have been very hard for you as you say the children are 4 and 1yr so my maths tell me that if you have been together for 3yrs and the youngest child is 1 then was he with this woman while with you. going by what you have said love this man doesnt seem to be faithfull to any woman in his life, He has a wife a g/f and obviously another g/f you, all at the same time and 2 children, He sounds a very busy man love and If I were you sweetheart I would wish to no the truth as he hasnt told it...
You love him I understand and feel for you but at the end of the day hun you really need to no where you stand in this circle of lies and deceit, And think of yourself as you just dont no who else he may have or is doing this to, Love is not something one should take for granted and you are worth the truth as your love for him is true...I hope you can sort this out and find the true happiness you deserve WITH MUCH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 I'm sorry to hear this. I need to say, however, that he was with this girl at the same time he was seeing you. The one-year old is living proof of it. Only you know what you will do, but, if you take this man knowing this, you will have to put up with such behavior. I would advice you not to. He cheated on you, and I think he would very likely cheat again.
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