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*-gurl704
writes:I have this new guy in my life that I love very much, But I have this problem... my self confidence is not where it needs to be. Therefore in the past I have been known to sabotage any potiential realtionships because of my fear of the person not liking something about me or leaving or cheating on me. I feel like I am starting to do this with this guy, and I hate it because i love him with all my heart. Im just scared something or someone will take him from me. He is very attractive and has no problem getting women, he says that he loves me and wants to be with me, but sometimes i feel like im not good enough for him. and he is really picky on the women he dates and sometimes that makes me feel like he wont like me because i mean im not perfect and no one is, but he just makes me feel like i have alot to live up to. I just want me and him to be together and be happy.. What should I do?
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reader, d-gurl704 +, writes (23 December 2008):
d-gurl704 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou for your responses...they have helped alot..you both made so much sense...I will try to get over this and try to make the best of our relationship..I thankyou again :)
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reader, 216004 +, writes (23 December 2008):
First of all you're way too young to be this insecure! Obviously he likes you or he wouldn't go out with you. You said that'"he makes me feel like I have alot to live up to.." In what sense? Do you feel like you're not pretty enough? If that's the case EVERYONE is beautiful! Beauty is not just skin deep....it's whats on the inside that shows thru. I went out with a guy like this- he was soo hot, everyone looked (female) when we walked into a place and I always felt like girls were checkin him out- and I thought "hell yeah HE'S WITH ME!"(he told me later that he hated guys checkin me out!) All I can say is that if you feel that he's not going to like you or is going to cheat on you....then it's his loss and he's probably not the guy you want to be with anyway. my gramma always said "it's better to be with someone who loves you a little more then you love them"....Who knows....Stop being so insecure and just enjoy it for what it is...if it lasts GREAT and if it doesn't... NEXT! But OBVIOUSLY HE LIKES YOU OR HE WOULDN'T BE WITH YOU!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Well I think you have said it yourself...."he is really picky with the women he dates"..... Well he's picked you! Well Done girl!
You have nothing to worry about, he wants to be with you and you should just enjoy it. You need to listen to your own advice I think, when you said no-one is perfect your right.....your boyfriend isnt perfect either! Everyone has the little annoying habits and he is no different, I bet he has his own insecurities too that he wont let on to you about.
Think about it, you love this guy and want to be with him. He wants to be with you. You cant ask for anything more, dont let any little worries of yours mess up this good relationship you have.
Insecurities are hard to get rid of so you will just have to learn to live with them. Accept that you will worry from time to time but the longer you are together the less they will bother you in the future. Good luck!
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