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writes: Im going through a very hard time, I would appreciate help from anyone who can offer me advice.My long distance boyfriend of two years, who i love dearly, told me a week ago on the phone that he's really unsure about our future together. he feels there may be something missing, and he doesnt think we could make each other happy if we settled down together. part of his worry is that I wont be happy when Ive moved to live in his country (he cant move here, long story but we always accepted that wasnt on the cards) but also there are deeper worries about his relationship and whether it would work long term. I flew over to see him this weekend. He basically says he still loves me, and wants to take a break for us both to think about things and what we want. (Not going to see other people while the break is on.)I am devastated and dont know what to do. We had planned to spend Christmas together and now thats not happeneing as the break is going on till end Jan. He isnt coming back is he?? is there anything i can do to make him want me? I am worried that when he has time away he will decide he cant be bothered any more as he has a lot going on in his life at the moment.Any advice will be hugely gratefully received. I hope you wont all tell me to move on as Im just not ready to give up yet. :-(Love from a very confused, heartbroken girl. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): I see myself in your question - and in the other response! I wanted to echo the other advice...give him the break that he needs. I believe firmly that if it is meant to be, it'll happen - but only if you don't ruin the relationship by being anxious and force him to make a decision now.
I wish us all luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): he found someone new- let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): Hello there I am sorry to hear that you're going through this. My guy and I are also in a long distance relationship and he has also recently decided that he doesn't know what he wants at the moment. If you don't want to give up on your bf then don't. I think maybe you should just give him some time to think things out and figure out what he wants. If he told you he loves you and you two won't be seeing other people while on break it is obvious that he does care and loves you so just be patient and wait to see what happens. Unfortunately us girls sometimes get so obssessed with our relationship problems that we don't give them time to work themselves out, we just want to be there trying to make things work. But you can't do that right now because he's the one that's confused. So just give him time, let him figure out if he misses you or not and realize what he wants and only then can you decide what you want to do. Also try not to contact him so much while on break, that way he can miss you, because if you call him too much, it won't really be a break. Be patient, maybe your Christmas plans won't turn out as planned but maybe they will, you just don't know yet. Christmas is still 4 weeks away, that's plenty of time for him to figure things out. Good luck! Hope things work out for you =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): I think this long distance relationship is over and you know it. He wants time to think it over and have some breathing space. Take him at his word and you do the same. Don't beat yourself up. Get together with your family and friends over the Christmas, don't ring or write to him, enjoy your time and space without him. Sit back and ask yourself just what you really want. If he doesn't come back then you will have to move on so take this time off to get some of your strengths together for what i think will be the future without him. Do take care.
Best wishes
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