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30-35,
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writes:Im in a relationship with a man who told me he has slept with his ex. We have been together for under a year, i live with him. I love him very much, i dont know what to do?
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reader, Yummie Mammy  +, writes (12 June 2008):
DUMP HIM!!!!!
He's admitted it, so it's saved you the really hard job of having to go throught he pain and doubt of wondering if he's cheating, but he has shown complete and utter total disregard for your feelings by a) sleeping with his ex and b) then telling you! He has no respect for you or for his ex or for himself. Do you really want to be with someone like that? I doubt it very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): I would dump him immediately. Sorry to be so blunt but as a voice of experience I know that is the BEST thing you can do. You should NEVER accept a man who does that to you. That's awful.
And as painful as it would be to be without him, it would only be temporary cause time heals all wounds. And at least you walk away with dignity and it will only make you a stronger, better person.
What is actually way more painful and more destructive to your self esteem is to stay in a relationship with a guy who put so little value into YOU and into his commitment to you that he cheated.
Cause as of now, if you stay with him, what that's telling him is that he can walk all over you, and he will probably cheat on you again. No doubt.
You don't need a guy like that. You are WAY too young. You got your future ahead of you. Tell him to take a hike and don't look back. Don't be pathetic. You deserve better. Move on.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 Wow... first, I'm sorry that happened to you.
I would suggest that you two have a serious heart-to-heart conversation. I consider fidelity as one of the cornerstones of a relationship. He has broken that trust and must be accountable for it. I think that you need to figure out how he can repair that trust and IF he can rebuild that trust.
But, please be warned, I would seriously question all this and not be so eager to allow him back into your intimate world. Figure out why he did it and if he's remorseful about it. Don't let your love blind you to the fact that he is the one that cheated here.
Best wishes!
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