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My boyfriend and I cant seem to have sex because of the pain

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Question - (12 June 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 14 June 2008)
A female Macedonia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

me and my boyfriend tried to have sex so many times but it hurts a lot and i can't stand the pain, my hymen is too elastic. i'm desperate and i think i'll go to see a doctor. or maybe it's better that i lose my virginity by fingering? please help i'm 20 and tired of being a virgin

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008):

Thanx a lot guys you've been a lot of help for me and now I'm determined to go to a doctor (thanx LazyGuy). Also my boyfriend respects my decision hahaha he won't have the pleasure (although it's not a pleasure) be the one who will lose my virginity. Thanx again, see you...

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (12 June 2008):

LazyGuy agony auntIt can happen that the hymen is too strong to be broken by simple penetration. A doctor will then cut it.

I would suggest letting it be done. It is a piece of skin after all. Thin in most cases but tearing a skin that resists could A: really really hurt B: bleed badly and C: hurt.

A doctor could also check there are no other reasons it hurts.

If you do it yourself you might come to associate sex with pain and become more and more afraid of it.

Just go to the doctor as you planned.

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