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writes:i really need some adviceive been with my boyfriend 5 years.i have to say for the past 4 years it has been terrible-ive only stayed because i did love him.he has been so distant and cold from me-he has left me in serious financial debt. he never calls-forgets birthdays etcwe rented a flat together -even now im paying 3 quarters of the rent.a month ago i couldnt take it anymore and left-im at my sisters for now-she has a spare room.im still paying the rent because i dont want him to be in difficulties but he has never given me the same care.his mum has been calling me at my sisters making me feel like the wicked witch of the west-she has no idea of anything-it annoys me that hes happy to let this picture be painted of me when all ive ever done is help him-but he still makes me feel so bad.i dont know if anyone else out there would do this. please no sarcastic comments i know i soun d like a miserable loss but i just need some outsider comments thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): Your life my feel like crap now...but you are doing the correct thing and on your way to freedom and happiness. First of all that is his mom...she will always take his side no matter what and if she loves him so much without hearing your side then she should pay his rent.
Which reminds me...stop paying his rent...if he even cared about you a little he would pay his own dam rent. Sounds like a really spoiled guy with no care in the world so you'd be best to just cut all ties with him for now babe. You don't have to take crap from anyone!
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reader, natasia +, writes (22 June 2009):
 I'm so sorry. I know exactly what it feels like to love someone and do all you can for them, and for them to treat you badly and seem to be completely ungrateful for all you've done. I'm afraid the only way to get through it is to see them for the unpleasant person they are, and ignore whatever they do or say from now on . You know the truth, and you have a clear conscience. Don't waste any more of your life on him. And stop paying the bloody rent! Just stop all of it. No more. He doesn't deserve it.
Trust yourself and your own morals. Never listen to rubbish from someone who doesn't care about you and can't understand that their own behaviour is at fault. Truly, you must get rid of him - get him out of your life. It will be so much better for it! You'll do it. : )
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