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writes: hi, well ive met this guy on the internet and he keeps saying he loves me,dnt know what to do im 28 with a child and boy friend i dnt get on with this guy is only 18, and says im right for him i do really like him he also live 6 hrs away ,plz help dnt know wat to do x
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reader, miss help +, writes (22 October 2006):
 tell him how old you are that you have a bf and a child.
if he doesn't leave you alone. Just don't go on the website anymore.
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (20 October 2006):
 He is still young and proberly doesn't know what he wants his hormones are racing..and at the age of 18 some guys think its good to have an older woman for experience..think hard and carefully about this situation ..i really know how your feeling at the moment..your feeling flatterd that a younger guy is interested in you ..and your getting all the love and affection that your not getting from your current b/friend..your on a high and getting a buzz from it all.but is this what you really want? people can get get hurt..do you really want to finish your current relationship and you also have your son to think about..you don't really know this guy properly and as DR PHYC says he could be chatting to other girls and saying exactly the same to them..but then again he could be honest and really have these feelings for you..think twice about this situation..
GOOD LUCK
xLEAHx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (20 October 2006):
 You put the brakes on that rollercoaster into disaster that you are riding on and start to think calmly and rationally about the whole situation.
1. He is 18 and you are 28: I am in an age-gap marriage but my husband is in his 20's so had chance to see a bit of life before I came along. My point is that at 18 he maybe a bit mixed up as most of us are at that age and you may be his 'first love'...more of a crush than the foundation for real love. You maybe at a different stage in your life - things that are new and exciting to him won't be the same for you (maybe) so you may find you don't have that much in common.
2. You are cheating on your boyfriend: Whatever way you look at it this is cheating as you are contemplating running off with another guy. If you don't get along with your current boyfriend, by all means leave the relationship. But skipping from one relationship into the next isn't a good idea - perhaps you need to be single for a while. Don't confuse your boredom and displeasure with your current relationship with 'love' for this younger man.
3. This is an internet relationship. It is not clear if you have actually met this guy but...internet dating can be doomed to fail as you fall for the online persona of the person (and they control what you see of them) and then in real life they are nothing like that person. I am sure some people do meet and have successful relationships having met over the net BUT there are 1000's who don't. I think you have to be very careful as you have a child and you also need to protect yourself - you know nothing about this guy as he lives many miles away and therefore you don't know if he is chatting to other girls, has a secret girl stashed away somewhere or has some serious interpersonal problems of his own.
I am not saying it cannot work, but you really do have to be careful as there are so many complications associated with your 'would be' relationship. Think carefully before you going running off into the sunset with internet guy...
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