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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have the greatest husband with one flaw, porn, I learned to live with him watching porn from time to time and this as gut wrenching as it is I did but...when I met him (we have a very open communication) he told me he did a home made porn with his ex girlfriend of 10 yrs. I asked where the tape was he said that his ex had the tape. I asked him that I don't like that a tape exist and if he was sure he didn't have the tape because I would be upset. He said no he didn't have the Tape..7yrs later into our marriage I discover that he lied he had the tape, knew about it and watched the tape of him and his ex a couple of times most recently 1 week ago. I am so distraught he lied. There is one other questionable thing he did an employee of his 2yrs ago sent an email of her vagina. The employee is bisexual and married..he said that the employee had a conversation about her being with a girl who was stalking her and couldn't end the relationship and she supposedly fowarded the email to my husband so he can see how crazy this girl is. Anyways I find myself really upset I need advice. He lied once and has disrespected me 3x. He is very good father and husband but this is bad and all he can say is it's just porn nothing wrong with that, get over it, home made tape was 14yr ago no big deal, I am not cheating never will. What to do really great guy doesn't go out spends all his time with the family but to me I find it really wrong for him to lie and watch an old ex
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Hi
As i was leaving.. i would put a new video on for him of me having sex with a couple of dishy guys...good sound and visuals and lighting, and get the guys to say THANKS TO HIM.
Then say goodbye.
via con dios.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 if i was in your position i would be distraught, i have never been married and so maybe my advice is invalid however i would start laying down the law about this tape. burn it!! tell him to destroy it and tell him how you feel. you need to sit down and chat with him, you need to give men easy to follow points,e.ggood point about himthe thing he could improve on and whyhow he can improve on itand then finish with another good point. by sandwiching the points he will see it as rational talking and not moaning.you could try:"you're a good father and a loving husband""i'm unhappy with the fact you lied to me...it makes me feel...""we can resolve the issue by...""i love you"let me know how this goes, best of luck.xx
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