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writes: My spouse texts 1,000+ messages in a month to an old female friend and states nothing going on. NO intimate replationship with spouse for months. Husband opened seperate checking account said tired of not having a say, but texts this person our issues all day and night. He hides phone and blocks calls id. What should wife think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Do not see this like a court of law, having to prove it. If you know then that is enough. Whatever is going on doesn't matter. He's shown you just how much you mean to him. I found sex didn't stop when i went through this, and sometimes going off how often you have sex is misleading.If anything its the one on the receiving end who goes off sex and see's their partner as filth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Doesn't sound good. I agree with "tennisstar88" that you should hire a Private Investigator if you can afford it.
If you are on the same Cell Phone Bill, go online and document all of the Texts and Calls that he makes to this woman. Print it out on paper or save copies on your Computer. Don't say anything, just keep documenting and saving proof. THEN if you want to divorce, you will win a good settlement if you are not in a "No Fault" Divorce State.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Yes,that's exactly what my ex said too. She simply got another sim card and a hidden mobile phone. Of course something is going on.He is proving what a shit he is,disrespecting who he`s supposed to love,and its torment. If you have the strength it may be time to distance yourself,there is more to life than tolerating this joker. Dont ever believe its the best you will get,because it isnt. ITS THE WORST.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (21 January 2011):
 These are all the classic signs of cheating. People that have nothing to hide don't act like this, he's obviously doing something he knows he shouldn't and something he knows you wouldn't approve of. Sorry to say it, but by now he's probably emotionally checked out of the relationship and is cutting his ties to you to make a clean break. I don't see why else he would suddenly open a separate account without speaking to you about it in addition to being distant overall. Have you had a serious and impartial discussion about this behavior with him yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): i think the advise above is so so right. I dont text my closest friends that much. And have had a situation very similar. I think once the sex has stopped there has to be something more going on. Sorry sweet hope its not but be careful
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 January 2011):
 If you suspect him to be cheating, hire a private investigator.
Keep a watchful eye out, checking his pockets while doing the laundry, clean his car out, etc. Are you the primary account holder for the cellular service? Is so then you can find out what number he has been calling, and call her yourself.
With no intimacy, separate checking account, and so many text messages to this female friend then I would say he's cheating and sooner or later he's going to make an exit from this marriage. I would start building up your case against him now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Exactly what you are already thinking.
No matter what he says, you can't trust him at this point. You need a counselor, he's having some type of an affair, and the only way to get to the bottom of it is to work with a 3rd party to help you.
Don't take any other course of action, if you want to save the marriage, counseling is a must.
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