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writes:My husband of 2 years is now claiming that he is really a woman on the inside. He loves to crossdress and has been out in public to join support groups completely made up as a woman.I am having a great deal of emotional problems with this. I have let him dress up at home, but that's just not enough for him. Why? Because, he doesn't know if this will be enough for him. He says that he feels like a lesbian. I am not attracted to women at all. Not even a mere fantasy about them. I just had my 2 year anniversary in March.This is what gets me. He will shut down on me if I tried on a pair of my own shoes if he doesn't get to wear his heels. He admitted that he has tried to buy me a nice dress but he couldn't bring himself to do this. (Even though he owns a lot more dresses than I do). I am distraught, stressed out, confused, angry. We don't not have any kids together but I have 3 kids from previous marriage here at home. And, of course I found out after we got Married.Girl from PA
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Hi there,
It sounds like your husband is trying to be open with you, but still has a lot to figure out himself! You sound like you've been pretty tolerant of him and his lifestyle, which is commendable. A lot of women wouldn't do the same. Please realize that your husband feeling this way isn't unusual, and that there are a lot more men that feel like he does. I would contact PFLAG, or visit their website to find yourself some support. They will have resources for your husband as well.
While your husbands feelings aren't completely unhealthy to him, they are unhealthy to your marriage. He may be looking for something in life that you can't give him or that he, at least has to find for himself. Whether that means a completely transformation or just some changes, he will need to do what it takes to satisfy his feelings. He can not suppress them and live unhappily, because that will make your situation so much worse. It may be a temporary bandaid, but it will not last forever.
Please find yourself someone supportive to talk to, PFLAG is great, and hopefully you and your husband can find a happy ending for you both.
Good luck!
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reader, jchevy1791 +, writes (15 April 2009):
 I feel awful for you, thats definetly a rough situation to be in. I think maybe you should talk to him about why he didn't tell you back 2 years ago. Also why did it take you 2 years to find out. I think you should talk to him about seeking help and finding out if he wants to change. If not i think you should get yourself out of the situation and not put your kids through your stress.
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