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writes:My husband left me 3 months ago,but he is still in contact with me and give me a little money weekly. he does not show affection to me now and said he will never be back to the marital home. Should i wait and hope we can restart our relationship, i am still in love with him. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2016): I am sorry you're going through this. But, as he himself has said he won't come back. Remember that you're going through A PHASE towards the final acceptance of his decision. What makes things worse is that he's sill in your life - gives you money from time to time. If he's legally obliged to do so, than make it impersonal. Make him transfer the money to your bank account.If not, and you need the money, than it's complicated and you must practice certain discipline of the mind. Do not let your thoughts linger on "what if". Limit the contact with hi to a bare minimum and find something to occupy your time. It is a phase and it will pass.You won't feel like this forever.When my stepdad left, he didn't have the courage to tell us what his intention was. He was supposed to go on a short trip! He didn't even explain when my mom would call him. In the end we sort of guessed. So at least you know where you stand. It is hard, but you'll get through it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 May 2016):
 I think he needs to drop the contact with you. It is kind he is giving you some money, my guess is he feels guilty for leaving you. But the hard truth is he does not love you anymore and he will not be back. I am sure this is not something he decided over night and am sure it was not easy. But you need to trust him when he says he will not be back. In order to move on with your life you need to accept that he is gone. Talking to a professional about marriage break ups might help you
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reader, Denizen +, writes (27 May 2016):
 I'm sorry to tell you this but he's gone. I know you are hoping through the grief it will all come right and it will - but not with him. Give yourself time. You need support. Perhaps Relate could help. It is worth giving them a call.
You will get through this!
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