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writes:How can you convince your husband that God in your life is the only way for us to have true happiness. We were young and wild when got together and were very much soul mates I thought. Now its 20 years and 3 children later that I started church and got saved. Now Im alot different and much happier with myself. Or maybe you can also say I've grown up a lot. He's still just as recklace, wild and crazy as he always was. He's like a 39 year old that thinks he's still 20. We are not so compatible anymore. I cant understand why he hasn't grown up. We have children to support and he doesn't seem to care. I have always been the responsible one to take care of everything when he wont do it. I just got him out of Rehab 4 months ago for doing drugs. Now I've caught him doing them again. (we've always done them on and off since we started dating 20 years ago. But When I got saved God instantly cured my addiction. Now my husband cant seem to be strong enough to do the same or maybe he just doesn't won't too. He's been in and out of jail for different things over the last 6 months and I'm worried about whats going to happen to him. I love him so much and I dont wont to give up. Do you think me praying for god to change his heart and except him is possible? Or will it just take my husband to finally wake up and except him on his own? (If he only knew what kinda of a high God can give you---Drugs can never reach that high) It's all one big fat lie. Should I just keep being the soul provider and the good mother. Living with him constantly sneaking around behind my back and doing drugs. Or stay like a good wife and be here for him hoping that god will take care of it all. Or should I be totally heart broken and leave with my children because he's only getting worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): HiIn sickness and in health until death us do part! did you take these vows in front of god? You can not force God into anyone's life...give LOVE and you are doing his work. Even the WILD are loved by God and maybe he does not need saving...who's to say he is not YOUR GREATEST TEACHER IN LIFE? maybe he walked the WRONG ROAD WITH YOU, FOR YOU TO BE SAVED!God has many children and i am sure your husband is one of his children and does not need to be accepted...UNCONDITIONAL.VIA CON DIOS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): Welcome into the family of God. Many times this happens, and I know a couple that went through something similar. They lived a bit wild, she came to the Lord, and her husband was still in the old life. She didn't 'preach' to him, just went to church and lived her new life. He saw the change, and wanted that peace too. Now they have a strong faith, and help other people. I believe that can happen for you too. Let your husband see your joy. He's going to want more of what you have and less of the depressing drugs. The worse advice is to tell him he needs to change asap, blah blah..he'll be more resistant that way. Aren't you grateful someone reached out to you? You can do that for your husband, or ask advice from a trusted lead in the church. Your new 'family in Christ' is there to help and guide you.
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reader, LoveOnaStick +, writes (8 February 2009):
My fiance and I are very happy and we are not godly. You can't convince someone to believe in god just because you do, and many people from many different religions can have a loving, happy relationship. But if your christianity and his lack-of is a problem, your marriage may not work.
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