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writes:I'm sad. Very, very sad because my husband seems don't want any sex now. Yes, he is far older than me. I'm 41 and he is 67. I know some of you will criticise that age, but yes I love him so please, don't think negative about our age. He is still healthy, actually more strong than me. I want to think its only because of his age. But I miss him. I think even only oral would do for me. But even that seems he has no interest anymore. He sit and only watches his movies and that's all. He is still nice to me, he is still sweet.I'm trying to understand it. He still kisses my lips, hugs me but I'm not sure if its enough. I talk to him, but every time I start a conversation about this he gets mad and tells me he don't wanna talk about it. I am suffering now. There was a time I was thinking to cheat on him. But I can't. I am not that type of person who cheats on her husband. I need advice please. My husband don't wanna go to any doctor. He don't want to adjust. He just wanna stay the way he is now. And I'm crying like hell. I don't know what to do please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 January 2013):
 If you have tried to talk to him and he does not want to talk about it (many men are embarrassed by it) and he refuses to go to the doctor (he probably has low-t at this age) then there is not much you can do WITH HIM to fix this.
If masturbation is not enough for you, He probably needs to be told:
"I love you, I love being married to you and want to STAY married to you but, I need sex in addition to love and affection. IF you are not willing to figure out how to fix this I need your permission to take a lover to satisfy my sexual needs."
and see what he says.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2013): You made a choice. 67 is getting up there...he probably has low testosterone... it happens. Buy him peanut butter, get him working out.Or take him to the doctor and talk about a low dose testosterone replacement therapy. You are not going to go down the path of cheating...so try your best to not be hurt. Depression in and of itself is so sexually unattractive. You owe it to yourself and to your husband. Do not cheat. You will absolutely kill him.
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