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writes:My husband and I have been married for five years, lived together for ten. His son has lived with us for five years, and we have a child together (adopted). My husband recently had an affair with my step son's mom. This is the fourth affair, all with her. We decided to work it out, but now she says she's pregnant. She has said this all the other times too, and she was lying. But this time I think she's telling the truth. I don't know how I should deal with this. I love my husband, and I don't want a divorce. But I don't know if I can deal with her having a baby by him. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): Sounds like he may be in love with his ex wife. He may care about you and doesn't want to lose you because, you are probably a good spouse to him and a great parent to his son, but that is where the buck stops. It's shameful you know, because, most people don't get along with their step kids---they can't stand them for whatever the reason maybe and the fact that you agreed to have his son live with you all the while he has cheated on you with the his ex..my goodness, he should be more than grateful. The truth of the matter is this: there comes a time in a persons life where they fall in love and they never fall out. Yeah, they may be forced to move on for whatever the the reason maybe, but they can't shake that feelings even if they tried. This is why it is so important for one to be intuned with their innerselves. Know yourself, know your feelings--it's very important. This way if you know yourself, you are less likely to be in a position where someone else has to figure you out. My guess is that your husband always knew he wan't over his ex and instead of him just accepting that truth, he decided to ingore it and get involved with you. It's so wrong to toll around with the emotions and feelings of others. Men and women need to wake up and realize that true love is hard to come by...heck it's hard to come across people who simply care let alone love and it seems like those that do find true love, they often take it for granted...thinking that the person will always be there or that they will find someone better...and they truth is that the never do. They go the rest of their lives searching but never finding, seeking, but never discovering.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 Your husband has had 4 affairs with his ex partner, the mother of his son.
Angie, looks like your husband loves the both of you and he can't choose. She's not going anywhere, and he'll definitely sleep with her again. If she's not pregnant now, she will be one day. Why have you put up with this for all these years? All her pregnancy will mean is that he might have to bring the child into your home, or he may have to pay extra money. The main issue is, why are you staying with a man who seems to love you but also love his ex-partner.
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