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My guy doesn't seem interested anymore. What do you think?

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Question - (30 August 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 25 March 2008)
A female United Kingdom, *arla3683 writes:

Hi there, well could anyone help me. Ive been with this bloke for 5 months now and yeah i really like him, but recently hes been messing with ma head.

Two weeks ago we had a big arguement over another girl (i was drunk) well after that ngt i texted to say sorry and he ignored me so i left it and tryed again 2 days later no reply.

The follwing friday i went out, he was in the club so i ignored him. an hour or 2 later he came over and asked to speak to me so we did. I asked why he ignored ma texts, he said he lost his phone, ok we made up was haveing a good night he then disserpered no answer on phone.

saw him sat ngt, he said he went home!! so haveing another good ngt and he leaves me again.... whats going on why would he do this as we were getting on fine for the past 5 months??

why cant men open up or at least say its over instead off leaving you hanging on?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008):

It sounds familiar to what i was going through. It may be that you just got involved in the wrong guy. Just like me and he didnt turn out to be the guy you thought he was.

If he was really worth it, he would have replied to your texts and calls.

However hard it maybe to move on, because you still have feelings for him, or at the back of your mind, still believe that you can work things out, you need to be strong, and lay down the laws. Dont let him think he can walk all over you, because once you lower yourself, he will know that he can get away with it. and it wont stop him doing it over and over again.

You need to be strong, tell it how it is and if he doesnt reply to you, move on. Find someone better. Who treats you well and someone you can trust and most of all be happy with.

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A female reader, carla3683 United Kingdom +, writes (7 September 2007):

carla3683 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

carla3683 agony aunthi there thanks for all your advice and will update you all later thanks xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007):

yeah well ive been with my boyfriend err excuse me "fiance" for about 8 months now and its like he goes out of his way to NOT reply to my texts! his stupid excuse is "if i stop what im doing at work i get really hot" what?!!! that doesnt even make sense! but i see you are texting other people so why cant you write back a simple "i love u 2" he says he sees me when he comes home anyway so why write back and spend money. if it were in the very beginning you can bet he would be replying to every little message i sent. does this mean the "new" has worn off? how can i marry a man who WONT text me back? my heart hurts over it. it seems juvenile but really when you think about it, the only people you dont write back to are people you just arent that concerned with... right?

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A female reader, Sugarbuns Australia +, writes (30 August 2007):

Sugarbuns agony auntOkay, it's time to lay everything on the line. Send him an e-mail and tell him that you care about him, but you're not into games. If he wants to continue seeing you, things have to change. You want to be able to see him each day (if that's possible) and have contact, spend time together etc. That's what normal, adult couples do. If he's not ready for a relationship, here's his out. You don't want to be a fling, or an affair and that's all he's after then he need not respond to your message. His silence will say it all. Then give him a time-line. Like two days or something. If he has feelings for you, then he'll respond and hopefully will understand where you're coming from. If he doesn't respond, don't make excuses for him; his computer did not break down, his arms are not tied up in bandages. You have to be willing at that point, to accept that he was just using you and was not looking for a relationship. Then quietly move on with your life. No more texting, no more calling or expecting anything from him. If he doesn't respond afer you lay it all out there, then it wasn't what you thought it was to begin with and now you know. Don't let him play games with you anymore. He's either in or out. Good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007):

I am going through the same thing right Now!! He doesnt text any replies when I text him we have just spent a hour and a half together to pick up his things and left after a chat about everythibng but us! Hi slast words were "Take Good Care of Yourself"! I am brokenhearted and have just reached the Conclusion that he doesnt Love me anymore! It hurts like hell I know I wish I could Hug you now because I am feeling Exactly the same as you...Confused and Bewildered about his feeling for me now. Please try to move on now because I am going to why Love someone who cant Love us back! We deserve to be treated better than this! I am going to pick up the pieces now and Move on with my Life and I want to ask you to do the same. Good Luck with your New Future!

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