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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years. She is gorgeous and giving more than 100% to this relationship. But we have one problem, my Girlfriend's unbearable mood swings....one moment she will make me laugh like crazy and after few hours she will start scolding me for small things like hell. She cares about every damn thing concerning me and goes beyond her capacity to help me in crunch, and she has lovely sense of humor but this part of her being angry quickly gets the scared out of me. I have spoken to her about it to find out whether she had or have some problems that make her having this mood swings and she answered saying that If I love her I should love every emotion of her which I do . However, I get the feeling that someday while she is angry, I might end it up answering her back and that might hurt her so badly that she will dump me. I heard that girls usually get angry quickly during period? or I get panicked with this out of proportion ?
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reader, cmarieky  +, writes (17 July 2011):
After four years you should be able to sense when her mood is changing or what her mood changes to. The more you understand what makes her tick the less likely u are to make her tick. N when something else not u make her tick u can agree and comfort her to help her deal with it. Everyone has mood swings to some degree. If she has anger management issues try to be more observant of those small these she becomes angry about, this will be like an enlightenment for u bc u will be able to divert certain things so not to rattle her. A relationship is work. And if this one is worth it invest some time understanding her moods and what makes her react. The only way I see a serious problem is if your gf is bipolar, that requires professional help and medication. Team work darling. And all females mood changes depending on where she is in her cycle. And don't worry, discuss your fears with ur gf and let her know your trying to comfort, accept, and learn her. Best wishes
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 July 2011):
 "I have spoken to her about it to find out whether she had or have some problems that make her having this mood swings and she answered saying that If I love her I should love every emotion of her which I do."
And so the same should be true for her. She should love every emotion of yours, including those emotions which HATE her mood swings. She can't have one standard for her behavior and another one for yours.
If she is experiencing violent outbursts, she needs professional help. As a woman yourself, you should understand about hormonal changes.
If she is threatening to dump you because you dislike her outbursts, then she is emotionally blackmailing you, it's a form of abuse. I would suggest she see a doctor or other mental health professional to work on this if it is such an issue for you.
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