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reader, micheled  +, writes (26 December 2010):
i did it also for two years to one guy. i did it all the time and really enjoyed it. but guess why i stopped? I stopped because i'm tired of it. he does nothing for me. it doesn't seem like the relationship is going anywhere. i just don't want to do it anymore. i don't know, he just never acts like a boyfriend and i'm sick of it. i don't want to lose him, but im starting to feel like he uses me and doesn't really care about me. so i don't really want to do it anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): hey old thread but this has also happened to me right now, I actually asked her and she replied "She has never liked doing them" which i am not too bothered about but then she said after that that she only done them because she thought it would make me like her more so there's no need for her to do them now.
I myself isn't sure if that's a bad or good thing though. We've also not had sex in about 3 weeks, it keeps getting longer and longer gaps which frustrates me.
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reader, teikyo30 +, writes (23 January 2010):
If your girlfriend won't give you blowjobs any more, stop going down on her. It's only fair. And the women here that say they understand because you've been with other girls are clueless. You're with her now. That should be the bottom line. If I was with a girl who in her life had been with 20 other men that wouldn't make me want her any less. I wouldn't think about the other guys, I wouldn't ask about them, and I certainly wouldn't withhold sex acts because she did them with other people.
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reader, bekaaa  +, writes (18 April 2009):
blowjobs are realy not enjoyable for girls
how about suggesting flavoured condoms to make it better for her?
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reader, lilyanna +, writes (4 April 2009):
do you give her oral sex? this may have nothing to do with it but maybe she doesn't want to do it if you're not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Something happened. Maybe her friends brought up the issues of your past and she got freaked? Or maybe you haven't been treating her well in bed or out of it?? really look at all the options. Or maybe she just dosen't like it and has the guts now to tell you. Someone wouldn't stop for a reason like that!
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reader, freakalek +, writes (3 April 2009):
The reason why she don't want to do you any more and I don't blame her if she only been with you that mean that she is been faithful to you. And you are running around with other womens she don't want to catch anything in her mouth she is showing you how much she love you but you have to much pride to show her back . Like want you try going down on her sometimes give her the same satisfaction that she give you. Do unto to her as she do unto you get and maybe she will tust in her heart to star doing you again if not you're lost buddy.
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reader, freakalek +, writes (3 April 2009):
The reason why she don't want to do you any more and I don't blame her if she only been with you that mean that she is been faithful to you. And you are running around with other womens she don't want to catch anything in her mouth she is showing you how much she love you but you have to much pride to show her back . Like want you try going down on her sometimes give her the same satisfaction that she give you. Do unto to her as she do unto you get and maybe she will tust in her heart to star doing you again if not you're lost buddy.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (3 April 2009):
 Well, in a culture where a President of the Untied States has influenced a generation's entitlement expectations on the subject, and FloRida has just covered an old song, but changed the lyrics - "You spin me right round When You Go Down...?", the blow job has become 3rd base or a hand job, rather than the intimate action than it truly is. A blow job is as intimate as can get, when it comes to sex. A woman has to feel completely comfortable with a guy in order to do it. So...
The only thing that I can think of is Has anything else gone on recently between the two of you that has put a damper on your trust? Or is her background super religious? Is there a commitment issue here? Just throwing a few things out there incase they hit home...
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reader, xxcrazygirl121xx +, writes (3 April 2009):
i am a girl myself and giving a blowjob isnt always that fun for us. shes having second thoughts cuz of the girls u have been with and 5 is alot. if u have cheated on her during ur relationship that could probably change her mind but still dont bug her about it she will only get more mad and totally stop having sexual contact with you. when she is ready she will do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks jezebel i'll give it ago :)
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reader, chazx +, writes (3 April 2009):
 give her time the bj's will come back, try to please her don't talk bout it and I'm sure it'll come back :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Describe to her the specific things that she does that feels good or gets you excited. Everyone loves praise and this would single her out from your past girls. You have to make her feel as though she is the only one for you and no one does it like she does. Not saying that you dont already do that but there must be something that is making her feel insecure here. The problem is finding out what that one thing is and fixing it which may be tough since she wont talk about it. Thats why you will have to go out of your way to make her feel special here. Not just so you can get some but so her insecurities are delt with too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have told her a million times that shes great, she really is, but she says im just saying that to get her to do it, i really dont understand at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i would never do that, thats why i dont understand why she would say that, and then stop because of it
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Please tell me you havent compared her to any of your ex's...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): I think she's a little insecure about it. Maybe give her compliments. The only reason she wouldn't want to be compared to the exes is if she thinks they did a better job. Make her feel good about how she gave/gives them and they will keep coming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno no she gets plenty of oral. she says she stopped because she doesnt want to be compared to any of my x's. but why now? why only oral?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): Are you giving her oral too? Some girls on here say that they are going to withold oral for their man until he starts returning the favor. And I think that if it was an issue with her having a problem with your past it would have come up a long time ago and she would not only cut off the blow jobs. You are going to have to sit her down and get her to rationally explain to you what made her stop doing this. Talk calmly and lovingly to her. Tell her that you arent trying to force anything or make her uncomfortable but you just dont understand what made her stop.
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