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36-40,
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writes:Well to start, my girlfriend blows up into a bitch at any chance, shes been diagnosed with depression a couple years ago. She gets 'stressed out' extremely easily. Today, I get to class and my class is cancelled. So talking on MSN at my school, I let her know that i have no more classes. I had promised her that I would allow to her borrow my electric scooter to go and register for school. She had asked me to come home so she could register since she is scared. I told her numerous times in the conversation that i refuse to take my bicycle back to school, there's about 5 large hills i have to take. So she keeps begging me to go with her, so i bike back home so we can go. I have until 11:00 to get back into school to meet with my group. So, its 9:45, and Im trying to rush her to go and register for school. So she starts arguing with me that I didnt come home and be all lovey with her. She claims that I am being selfish for expecting to take my scooter back to school when i promised her to be able to use it. But she did ask me to join her to register. Is it wrong of me to think that I should take my scooter back to school since I had to endure many large hills to get back home? The hills are insane. I have to walk up most of them with my bike beside me. In my opinion, I wouldnt have come home if she had not of asked me to come! And i mentioned MANY times that i refuse to go up any more hills.!!So, the fight begins that she says "You're not expecting to take the scooter, right?", so i look at her with complete disgust where she wouldnt even be kind enough to offer me the scooter so i wouldnt have to kill myself ot get back to class! IM FRUSTRATED
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): You are totally right. She sounds a little selfish. Don't tell her that. Simply state your case that the ride is hard and you need to focus on school, not stamina right now.
Give her the option to drop you off on the scooter and then pick you up.
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reader, CNKlives  +, writes (17 September 2008):
She just sounds young. I don't think she is a "bitch" maybe a little insecure and needy. I would just have a talk with her, tonight, after everything has died down, and let her know how you feel and then you both can talk about ways to make it better...give and take.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (17 September 2008):
 Your girlfriend is also selfish. She is testing and pushing her limits with you and its up to you to put your foot down and set boundries with her. She needs to be more independent and not rely on you anymore. She's not 8 years old. you are not responsible for her.. what is so scary about registering for school? I think she's insecure and takes it out on you. She wants the upper hand in the relationship by being mean.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (17 September 2008):
 It's quite obvious that you love your girlfriend. She is very focused on her own needs, and has totally ignored and disregarded yours, even AFTER you bent over backwards for her. You have been MORE than a very accommodating boyfriend. She needs to buy/rent her own scooter and stop relying on you to do everything for her. She's a big girl now, let her put on her big girl panties and deal with her own problems. By rushing in and solving them for her, you are setting yourself up for MORE of this treatment in the future (trust me), and you aren't letting her grow up by fixing her problems for her. She needs to grow up and do it for herself. She ALSO needs to learn gratitude and appreciate when people actually DO nice things for her, and how to treat her boyfriend with respect.
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