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writes:To start off I'm using my girlfriend's account. Here goes: yesterday my girlfriend and I were really bored and looking for something to do. We started looking around. I opened my drawer and then I saw a photo of my father (he died in 9/11) and just completely lost it. My girlfriend came back in the room and saw me holding the picture, hysterically crying. As soon as I saw her I tried to control my tears. She immediately came over to me and hugged me. Then she told me she loved me and to "let the tears flow" as hard as I tried I could not stop crying. She continued to hold me as I cried. She did the best thing possible. Needless to say I'm embarrassed. How do I show her the same affection? She's going through a rough time too. I don't know how to thank her enough. And tell her how much I appreciate it. Suggestions, please?! Reply to this Question
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (12 February 2013):
You lost your father man. Even if I were your guy friend I'd be comforting you and would never see you as weak or a loser. It's a big deal and she knows it. Tell you appreciate it alot. She prob does not feel you should be embarassed and if anything see's that you have feelings and actually care about important things and that your not this unfeeling lunk. The worst thing humanity has taught men is to not feel or cry e.t.c. It's one thing to cry because of something unimportant, it's another to cry over a family member and someone who mean't so much to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2013): It is a tad cheesy but because this on her account leave this open when you leave so she can find it
You could be long gone from her computer but she will know you appreciate it. This also good if you are bad with confrontation
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (11 February 2013):
Don’t be embarrassed. The lose your father in those circumstances must have been devastating and it’s good that you are able to express those emotions because grief like that can’t be bottled up. I don’t think there’s any substitute for telling your girlfriend how much her support meant to you and how much it helped. Not sure what to say? Well just show her your post. How do you support her through her troubles? Just listen and be there. People don’t expect a magic fix, you know she can’t bring your father back and she’ll know you can’t make her troubles disappear, whatever they are. But just being there and some-one who your partner can trust enough to show their vulnerability is good enough.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 February 2013):
 do not be embarrassed....
you say to her when you see her 'thanks for the other day. It meant a lot to me that I can be myself with you."
it's what you do for your partner... you comfort them when they are down... and they in turn can be themselves in front of you and be comforted the same.
It's actually very comforting for me when I see my husband cry tears of sadness... it means he feels things and he trusts me enough to let me see it.
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