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writes:hi, i have the most amazing girlfriend i could ever ask for...in my eyes shes perfect in almost every way. i love her more than i have ever loved anyone else. and shes always saying she feels the same way. so why do i always think im gona lose her?? Reply to this Question
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reader, esepalo1  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 I know what you mean it just it seems to perfect and your just waiting for something to go wrong just go with the flow and let things be what they are fearing to much on losing each other takes away what you two have for each other just live the moment you guys are together and cherish it.
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Fear. You need to work on it. Realize you need to live your moments with her now, and every minute of fear is a minute you loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Sweetie I have read about this and I know it's not your self esteem. It's a normal phase in love relationships. It happens to everybody though no one speaks about it. I read about it in a psychology text book at college. It's how our human mind works. Nothing is perfect in this world, only God, so that's why your self defelse mechanisms are normaly telling you so you wouldn't get all depressed when you find a flaw in your girl. Enjoy what you have but remember that you should also have your own life apart from her and she should have her life apart form you. That's the only way your relationship will stay healthy for years.
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reader, fergiepunk +, writes (20 September 2007):
Its simple really, you are so in love you don't thin you are good enough for her when in fact you're likely perfect for her. All this is, is your self esteem. Dont worry about the worst possiblity when you have something that makes you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Hi, I think this is a question of self esteem. The more you think you are worth enough for someone to love as much as you love her, the more your insecurities will go away. I think self esteem plays a big role in relationships. You see her as being perfect because that's the impression she gives you. She probably has a big self esteem and it shows in the way she acts.
You probably had bad experiences in your past where your fell in love with someone and she left and now you think its going to happen again. Thats what happened in my case when I first met my perfect boyfriend, I was afraid he was going to leave me at first. It's a normal reaction but you have to think of it this way... You old relationships just weren't meant to be. You got out of it pretty well didn't you? Look at who you are with now!
Building your self esteem will not erase any chances of her leaving you one day.... no one can predict the futur. But you will enjoy your relationship even more and your fears will slowly go away.
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