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male
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anonymous
writes:I have been dating my GF for four years now and this year is our fifth year. The problem is since 2008 we started a long distance relationship because we both went to different universities, and now I am working while studying at the same time I only see her every two Saturdays a month and we don't even have a chance to make love because I don’t have my own place and she doesn’t have her own place we both stay with our parents.In 2010 January I promised her to buy her a cell phone but in February my Father past away and I had to prepare for his funeral and I took all the little money I saved to contributes with my four sisters so we can bury our father.I told her that I was not gona be able to buy her a cell phone any time soon by then, and we agreed that I will buy it as soon as I have money to do so. December 2010 I phone her and asked her what kind of phone she wants and she told me that she still going to think about it. My mistake was to buy a phone without consulting her again because I took it as if she will love the one I bought.On the 24 December I gave her that phone as a xmas gift but she returned it back to me complaining that I should have bought her a blackberry phone not Nokia phone. I tried to make her understand that is the least I can afford but she said I’m been selfish and that I don't have time for her that why I didn’t bother coming back to her to ask which phone she decided to want.What must I do? I love her and I know she loves me too.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Why doesn't she pay for a phone herself?
Your love wasn't satisfied with the phone you got her, it wasn't enough. Never mind the fact that you scraped together the money to get her a phone, I'm assuming you would be paying the monthly bill too?
She is the selfish one, she should be happy you got her a phone at all. If she wants a Blackberry, then she needs to get a job and pay for it herself. The monthly bill for a Blackberry isn't cheap.
To resolve this situation, I would let her get a phone that she likes and pay for it out of her own pocket. Then you need to take a second look at this materialistic girl you're dating.
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reader, jacinta  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 What an ungrateful person.!! she should have been delightd wit ur gift instead she gives it back to u and gives out to u 4 not buyin a dearer more fashionable phone.she has no consideration 4ur feeling bcos if she did she would nevr have done that. i would reali hav a good think whetr u want a future wit this girl. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): That's hard. She should be content with that what she's got. It seems like she can't cherish that phone. I can't understand her. She seems to be cosseted. Does she even know how much the phone means to you? She should cherish that. Anyway you'd better speak with her bout that she may be too cosseted. Don't let you treat bad! If she loves you she should know cherish such a present.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Aunty BimBim Thank you for your advice, but what I want to know is why could she return it?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 This is not love, a woman who returns a gift bought with love doesnt who says I dont want this one I want a bigger, better, more expensive one, is not a woman in love.
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