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writes:my gf is in austria atm, skiing with skl. i kinda dont like her doing this cos i know that her mates (boys) will try flirting with her. its been 4 days since she left, and 4 days till she comes back. i have been a nervous wreck for the last week, thinking about her, crying and everything but i dont know if i want to be like this any longer.. i just get the feeling rite now, she is with another boy, even if she re assures me there is no1 else and she loves me. should i give up? but i love her so much, it kills me, but i cant keep living like this, and dont know what to do...help me?! any advice?
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reader, Ted-ster  +, writes (26 February 2009):
Women find insecure men unattractive.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Oh, grow a pair....she'll be back in a few days. If she loves you then she won't do anything will she.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (25 February 2009):
 dude dont freak out im sure shes not doing anything if you believe she loves you them stop killing yourself about it. tell her how you feel about it. but if you cant live like that anymore then and it but always remember its different when that person is actually gone. good luck
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reader, lodge123 +, writes (25 February 2009):
lodge123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlast year, i went out with her best mate, who was cheating on me. she knew this, and didnt tell me... but i really love her, and i kno she loves me, and i dont know if i can live without her. but shes told me that this guy likes her. and shes really hyper, but before me, neva pulled a boy. but i went down on her, shes been down on me, so im afraid she will do this now... u kno?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): Oh dear!
Has she done anything to abuse your trust before...? Be careful, suspicions can ruin a relationship, and make both people feel really awful, even if no infidelity ever comes of it.
Be a little jealous... this is normal... but ultimately you should be confident that you're girlfriend will be faithful and not flirt. You seem so sure that these other guys will make a move, why?
Discuss this with your gf when she returns. I hope it works out!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (25 February 2009):
 It took me years of feeling just like you do now before I realized that the only thing I had power over in a relationship was how I let my thoughts affect me.
Though it hurts, cheating is not the end-all be-all of your world. If the worst thing to ever happen to you is her cheating, then you're ahead of the game.
You can't control her actions. Just have faith that you are a good person and that she is a good person. And if it turns out she did cheat on you, then dump her and move on.
I hope these words aren't lost on you, because I have been in your exact position before. The truth is, you will probably never know what all has happened on this ski trip, but you can't give up on a relationship everytime your GF goes out of town without you.
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