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writes: "my girlfriend wants "space" and i have given it to her, but i just want to get us back together!"me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for 2 year 8 months and she says she still loves me and wants to get married and have kids but she says she wants space now we see each other almost every day and only broke up 2 days ago but we were doing so good then see says that she want space she says she dont want a relationship and when she does it will be me but am so lonely and don't want to text or ring her cause i did on the first day and she was angry by me not giving her space please help me i need her back so badly helpppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! please!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Hi there
I am going to give you the same advice I gave Angelicc. You must give your GF space to breathe. This is what she has asked for and this is what she very obviously needs.
I know you are hurting, but I can give you another piece of advice. Start to build a life for yourself away from your gf, dont be so reliant on her. She needs to see you are not so needy and that you can cope without her.
You sound quite young and I guess it all got a little stifling for her. So just go with the flow and let her have her time to herself. When she contacts you you know the time will be right for you both.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (8 March 2006):
 i'm in a similar situation myself, i told my boyfriend we needed a break, he needed to figure some things out and i need to learn how to be less dependant on him. yesterday i regreted it so much i wanted to tell my boyfriend, but some people on here advise me to tell him how i felt and not to tell him. i decided not to tell him because he needed the space, he needed time to figure how he felt. so i think you should just give her the space she needs. hope all goes well
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): Hi there,I am going through exactly the same thing right now. My boyfriend of 5 years wants space to work on himself. It is very hard, but think of it this way, she loves you and she has said right now she doesn't want a relationship, but when she is ready again, it will be you. That is a great sign! I know it is hard to let those go that you love with all your heart, and i know it's a cliche but absense really does make the heart grow stronger. You need to give her this space to work on her own issues/life and use this time to do the same for yourself! If you call her everyday and hound her, she will end up resenting you for NOT giving her the time she needs to herself. So don't worry my friend, i am going through the same thing and trust me, if you just let her go for a while, let her make the next move to call you, then you will know she is ready to make a go of it again. Perhaps in a week or so, suggest to her that you two go on a date? That's what we are doing, giving each other space, and a few times a week meeting up and going out together. It's like getting to know each other all over again! I don't know how you feel about suggesting that to her, but it's worth a go! Good luck babe, just remember not to crowd her during this time, and use it to concentrate on yourself!
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