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writes: After only recently passing our driving tests [A few months ago] me and my twin bro share a car as we can't afford one each and we can't fit anymore on the drive anyway.I generally go out more in the car than my brother and I have it up to 5 times in a row however when my brother needs it my girlfriend becomes really funny about it and says that he only wants it to annoy us. When I tell her its not she gets really defensive and says 'Alright chill out!'. Then she keeps going on about how sharing a car is stupid and she could never do it.For some reason I think that my girlfriend is being selfish and thinks the car is part hers and part mine. Would you agree?She has said this now 3 or 4 times and its really irrating me and my mum thinks so to. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): You really, really have an immature gf there, dear. She needs a lesson in graciousness and caring for others. You weren't unfair-but I think you are fed up with her childish and petulant attitude. Perhaps your suggestion to have her pay for some of the gas may make her think a bit-about not just thinking about what 'she' is entitled to. If she keeps up with this....If I were you, I'd be re-assessing this relationship. Do you really need this grief and a future relationship like this, with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI asked her tonight if she would be willing to help pay for petrol costs. She firmly said 'No way! Im not paying for petrol! How tight! Im your girlfriend you should pick me up and take me places'. After this she was ranting on about she buys me the occasional present here and there. I dunno if I was being unfair or what.Ahh well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I concur with the Aunts below. Good advice! Your gf is out of order, here. She sounds immature, disrespectful and entitled to 'everything'in your life. Dating a person does not warrant that. The reality is: you and your twin (or parents) are the licensed owners, you people pay the registration/insurance/plates and gas. She has absolutely no 'dibs' on this car. I would think if she cared about you and this relationship, she'd be a bit more patient, gracious and understanding of the values your family has about sharing and working together in a respectful, harmonious way that keeps both you and your twin, getting your fair use of this car. I would sit her down and tell her that, she needs to understand how your family has agreed to work out this issue. If she is having a hard time dealing with you tell her, then I think it's time for you to seriously re-assess her character and her maturity. It's likely here, that you and she do not share the same ethics and family values. Having compatible views on how family works, is crucial to the success of any relationship. You have some thinking to do. Good luck with and take care.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 April 2007):
 Sure sounds like a spoiled brat to me, does she whine about other things as well? If yes I would think really hard about the future if I were you. Whiners are a pain in the ass.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (20 April 2007):
 Is she an only child? If so, she may not be used to sharing as much as you are, especially how much more twins share! It is selfish behavior, but part of being close with someone else is learning from them and growing. You need to sit her down and tell her how her behaviour has upset you and your whole family. If she doesn't take it well, she's probably not the girl for you. It's pretty great to have access to a car, most young guys don't have the opportunity! If she can only see the times you can't have it and the fact that you share it, she doesn't really appreciate the fact that you have a car at at all or that she should be grateful to you for taking her places in it. Definately a girl in need of an attitude adjustment! Good Luck with Everything.
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