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writes:I've been with my fwb for more than two years. Recently we had our first time hanging out in public. We had been in this type of relationship as a secret so finally we were introduced. He had a little smirk going on and so did I but no one saw.We were drinking that night, everyone did. He drank about eight beers or more, got high before and after he drunk.we were all in a little circle, i was in front of him, my close friend next to him, and so on with the rest of the crown. everyone was getting high and drinking some more. all of a sudden, he gets her by the waist and puts her in front of him. like her ass on his thing. they stayed there for a minute. (She doesnt know there's something between us. She also has a bf who she is going to move in with.) I was shocked he did this in front of me. I tried not to show any emotion but i guess he saw my expression. He put his hands in his pockets. She just slided to the side trying not to make things akward with him i guess since they are friends also. I was in an ackward, uncomfortable position, hopefully you understand why. to everyone else, he is hitting on her when she has a bf, to me he's my fwb.he fell asleep on the way home, and couldnt even talk but still managed to drive to his house.a day later, i sent him a message and told him i wasnt ok with him hitting on my friend. if he's gonna be trying to have sex with her or a bunch of other b***,to forget about me.i havent heard back from him...i dont know what to do. help,please, and thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): He can do what he wants you're just his fuck buddy. What makes you think you have any say in what he does, you're just his piece of sex meat.
What do you do? You stop presuming you're a couple and just get on with things. If you don't want him doing those things then tough OP, you're only FWB's and what kind of friend tells him who he can and can't fool around with. He's free to do what he likes.
You don't mean anything to him. The others say dump him, but you can't dump him because you're not a couple. You're just a warm, wet hole to him or do you not get how the whole FWB's thing works?
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (28 February 2011):
Whoa...wait a minute. I thought fwb meant no ties. That is, the two people involved in such a ridiculously stupid arrangement could bang anyone they want, including each other because, after all, they're just friends (with benefits). So, how is it that you give it away like ice cream, and then cry the blues when the brutal truth of how you are being used is brought home to you in a humiliating and public way? Do yourself a favor. Stop what you are doing. You're only hurting yourself. Dump this guy. He's using you (after, all that's the deal with fwb). And do a reality check on the type people you are hanging with. They sound dreadful. You don't need to sleep with anyone to prove your value. And, anyone who tries to convince you otherwise is no friend. You're still young, so you have some time to re-order your life, clean up your act, and start hangine with some real grownups. Good luck to you.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (28 February 2011):
 he's just after one thing, and your friend has no respect for her boyfriend. find a new social group and branch out a bit more.
there is nothing deep and meaningfull between you and this guy no matter what you may have thought. that much has been shoved in your face. weather he did this to get a reaction from you i'm not sure.
if you dont like his behaviour, stop having sex with him. plus he's a drink driver.
ditch this child boy
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): Hello!I will be brutally honest here and say that this situation is childish, immature, and outright troublesome. Drugs and alcohol in any situation will greatly influence the outcome of anything logically because of the influences they have on one's brains and eventual emotions and actions. You need to separate yourself from this crowd, gather yourself, and "circle" with new friends.Regards
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