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writes:I've known a guy through a mutual friend for 2 years. We have slept together 4 times. After each time, I would send a general message, from a friend to a friend asking how things were going, but I would receive no reply. From what it seems, he only contacts me when he wants. I don't consider myself a booty call, but friends are telling me otherwise. the reason I don't consider myself a booty call is because he told me after the third time that we slept together that he wanted a girlfriend and to settle down, also that he wanted me to help with the situation. The 4th time we slept together, he said he was totally over the idea of a girlfriend and settling down. We slept together again. Only, this time, he didn't even take my clothes off, but he was definitely more affectionate, despite leaving the clothes on. I know this story doesn't seem to make a lot of sense, but any advice would be greatly appreciated. I don't know where I stand with this person. O. :)
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 I don't really use that label. However, you are just someone he has sex with; you are not friends.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (31 January 2010):
Man, you need to open the curtains and WAKE UP... what do you think a booty call is?
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 I'm sorry but yes this sounds like a booty call situation and once the partern is established it is unlikely to change. I know that this seems like hateful behaviour on my behalf but I have someone that I treat somewhat like this. She's lovely but for whatever reason I only go to see her if something falls through with another lover. I know that I only have to turn up and chat for half an hour and we'll be in bed. I do try to send her the occassional SMS between times but if she wanted a deeper or more complex relationship I'd have to say no. I hope that in your case the sex with this guy is its own reward because I don't see it developing into anything else.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 January 2010):
Your friends are right. You are a booty call. Notice how he said he wanted a girlfriend, reeled you in a bit more, then said he'd changed his mind? Classic. And he never replies to texts? Another classic. Every sign is there that shows you're a booty call. If you want a boyfriend, look elsewhere.
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