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30-35,
*parkleDragon
writes:I like this guy but he cheated on his ex of two years twice. He promised he won't do it to me and he wants a chance to prove it. My friends say I shouldn't trust him and that he's lying but I don't know what to believe. I really like him and I don't want to leave him. The other thing is that he's 4 years older than me, I don't know if that's good or bad. Should I trust him or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): I can't tell you what to do anymore than your friends can, but I'll tell you that I am in a 2 year relationship with a guy who cheated on his ex. He swore up and down that our relationship was different and that he had never really loved her (they were together a little over 2 years), and then I found out this last summer that he cheated on me last March. I never, ever saw it coming. I never, ever suspected it. He didn't even admit to it until August - 2 months after his ex told me he did it with her friend. He lied about it for a long time. I'm still with him and I still think about it every day- it's been 7 months since I found out.
I'm still with him. I don't know if that makes me an idiot or not. In my situation with a guy who previously cheated, he did it again. I think, however, that it can come from any guy- one who has in the past or one who hasn't - if you read around you will hear tales of every type of guy out there cheating.
If this is a new thing...give him a chance. And like the other gal said, if anything seems off, get rid of him...because if you invest a lot of time in the relationship and then find out later that he did the same thing to you- it's HELL to try to get past.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 I agree with Wise Woman (kickass name, by the way). I'd give him a shot - the age difference isn't too bad, unless you're planning on having sex. I won't give you that lecture, though. Anyhow, if he cheats on you or you catch him in a lie - drop him like he's hot. But, if your intuition is saying that you can trust him, give him a shot. But, keep your ears and eyes open!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Well, give him a chance and if he cheats drop him.
It's your choice not your friends. If you like him you should go for it...
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