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writes:HelloI met a guy last month. He's charming. He invited me to his home twice. And he's trying to get something more. I really like him. But I don't want to have sex with him since I am not ready. Recently, he became cold and seems to keep distance with me. I know that he is having lots of female friends.Last week,he was flirting with several girls. I saw it and feel hurts....I told him that I had crash on him. But he just told me that I have no physical attraction to him, and we are not on the same position.And he also mentioned about that he's a nice guy, it happened sometimes girls will.....My friend told me that guy just want to sex,one night stand? Is that true?Lily
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 April 2008):
 What a creep-o. Clearly, he's only out for a piece of tail... that's no good. Don't waste your time with that scum bag - he's showing his true character now, and it's not that attractive.
There are plenty of sweet guys out there who won't treat you like a piece of meat, but instead treat you like someone they care for and want to be with (even if that means no sex for awhile).
Ditch that loser!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): I think the guy is playing you, and yes, he only wants sex.
Be careful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): It seems to me that he's just a horny kid that hasn't quite grown up yet. I can understand you're attracted to him honey, but it just looks as though he's wanting sex, and lots of it. Be very careful around this guy if you insist on still keeping in touch with him, personally I think he's a bit of a player. But your best bet would be to put him behind you and show him he doesn't always get what his horny little mind wants :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Hell yeah he just wants to have sex....no offense...im only 17 and I already know that. When a guy seems really into u like that and u know that he seems too good to be true ur probably right. He obviosuly only wanted 2 have sex with you with bad intentions cz he changed out of nowhere. He's being mean to u so u can get a clue. Don't fzll 4 it don't think u did something wrong sweety okay...keep your legs closed until your ready and the guy really deserves it...hope this helps...xoxo
Mrs.Charles2b
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (4 April 2008):
He sounds like a loser unfortunately. You woudlnt sleep with him, so hes become cold and distance, which suggests he isnt interested in you in anymore. Either that or he feels really rejected and thinks you dont like him at all. However the fact that he has alot of female "friends" (they might even be friends with benefits, as he seems to sleep casually around if hes willing to sleep with you and not be in a relationship) and flirts alot adds to the point that he is only interested in sex.
You told him you liked him/had a crush on him and he replied by saying you have no physical attraction to him? To me that seems like a nasty dig at you for not having sex with him. But he isnt right, saying you are not on the same position. He wants sex and you dont.
So it seems he was trying to use you for sex. Try not to take it personally. When guys are like that they arent able to see or even really care about all your other fantastic qualities you have to offer! It doesnt matter how great you are, if a guy just wants sex, thats all he will see you for.
I know it can be a huge let down, when you like a guy alot and then it turns out he only wanted sex. Just be thankful that you didnt sleep with him, so although he may of been attempting to use you, he DIDN'T get to use you. Thats really good, something you should be proud of!
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reader, red1982  +, writes (4 April 2008):
It may not be that he just wants a one night stand, but because he has turned cold and disinterested after you expressed that you weren't ready for a sexual relationship I think it's safe to say that a sexual relationship is what he is after.
He doesn't sound like he is willing to wait for you to be ready. And he doesn't sound like he is ready to settle down either to be honest. Don't give in to him, just because you like him. If he's not ready to wait until you are ready - he's not worth it. There are plenty of guys who are happy to wait for as long as it takes.
Good luck
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reader, Smiffy  +, writes (4 April 2008):
 Hi....yep...all he wanted was another notch on his bed post....rise above it...you are better than he is....reading your message I realise you have a more mature head on your shoulders than he does...you will find the one and you will know for sure when that happens...enjoy life...
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (4 April 2008):
Quite likely and the fact that you did not offer it too him or take his hints may be the reason why he has become more distant and cold.
Put him behind you and keep on enjoying life. There are plenty of guys out there who will respect your limits and that is the kind of guy you really want.
All the best.
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