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*ndy00
writes:Hi everyone.Recently a friend of mine has started to get herself into a long distance relationship, similar to one I was happily in a short time ago. She recently started chatting to a guy from Sheffield (she is from Oxford, so that's about 3 hours or so away) and they are now kind of "going out".Knowing this, I've began to feel a little jealous. I know that's wrong, but knowing that she's going into something I was recently in is eating me up. I still love my ex-girlfriend greatly, and I'm trying to get over her, but all this is starting to make me think about whenever I first fell in love with my ex. I think about how good that felt, and what it lead to, but it's also a reminder that things have ended, and I really want them back, but can't.How can I overcome the jealousy I'm feeling?
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reader, rcn  +, writes (8 September 2007):
 You need to disassociate yourself with her relationship. It's not yours. I could see being that way if she's with the one you were with. It's OK to want what she's having now. You've had it before. But, you need to realize you are both individuals. You both deserve happiness. What happens is you're recognizing the same behaviors in her you had. You're mind is playing a trick on you. By being familiar with what she's doing, your mind triggers a response which imitates the feelings you had and the feelings of loss.
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