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writes:What do you do when your best friend wont eat after coming out of a bad break up? I've never seen her this sad and hurt before, it's horrible to watch and i've noticed she hasn't eaten much since, in fact barley anything! She is refusing to eat and she's loosing weight quickly that if she doesn't eat soon, she will waste away!She wont listen to anyone, we've all told her she can't starve herself and she said she isn't doing it on purpose, it's just that she's not hungry and she will eat when she is. But I've been through this, I've had it where i've been too upset and depressed to eat, but I had push myself out of that when I realised what I was doing to myself. But she is letting herself fall into that and wont do anything to even try to get herself eating again... What can I do? Has anybody experienced this themselves and what did you do to help your friend or if it was yourself, what did you do? Why wont she eat anymore?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 March 2013):
 my hubby and I have a deal when I don't eat that's to make sure i"m well hydrated and that I drink a protein shake....
as long as she's hydrated she's going to survive.
breakups are painful...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2013): I too have been in the same situation. Two years ago I went through a horrible breakup, was left heartbroken and alone. I nibbled on food because like your friend, I honestly was not hungry. I then began starving myself till it hurt and what happened? I lost twenty pounds and became pale and sick. Yes, breakups are painful, and people handle them differently than others, but not eating is only hurting the person and adding to their distress. It is not worth it.
Time is the best medicine, and it may not seem like it right now, but your friend will be ok and emerge a stronger person. Just keep on being there for her.
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): "I've had it where i've been too upset and depressed to eat, but I had push myself out of that when I realised what I was doing to myself."
Exactly OP, YOU had to push yourself out of this and it didn't matter what anyone said did it? You knew yourself what you were doing and you were the only person who could yourself out of it.
"What can I do?"
Nothing, just like no one could do it for you.
"Has anybody experienced this themselves and what did you do to help your friend or if it was yourself, what did you do?"
You have experienced this and you know what people did to help you. They supported and that's it, they pushed you to eat too but only you could decide when to do that.
"Why wont she eat anymore?"
For the same reasons as you. She's hurt OP, but like you she'll get over it. Try not to worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): i have just come out of a bad break up too a few days ago and it is such a horrible feeling, all you can do is be there for her and try and make her feel better, she will eat again but when your that hurt sometimes the thought of food makes you feel physically sick
i started eating yesterday and my boyfriend and i finished on thursday, i guess everyone is different
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): I haven't dealt with this sort of situation before, but I have a friend that was in the navy, and his ship was bombed, and he was going through a lot of depression. One of the things that helped was getting him moving, just going for a walk or a run.
So I suggest if you can, try to get her moving, shopping, running, anything that requires her to get out of the house and focus on something
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