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writes: hi my fiance and i have a great relantionship but when it comes to sex he doesn't care if it happens or not. i've tried new things but nothing gets him going. i've told him how i feel and he just laughs it off and calls me a horn dog. what can i do before we get married?
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (13 October 2006):
 Well...honestly....I went through a couple engagements because way back then I was pretty embarrassed about How much sex I wanted when all my friends could take it or leave it..
And when the gent looked at me and said "Is that all you think about..." My response was to prove to him it was...by seducing a few extras...which i never got caught at....but eventually just said..."hey its not working out...got a date...love you bye." which was why i had convinced myself that I was unmarriageable. Nympho was the nasty little word that kept following me.
Now of course i know that EVERYBODY has a natural sex drive and some are significantly different from others. And it can vary from one season to the next and even from year to year.
Is he a pig for laughing it off...No...He is amused...because guys have this myth that Men want it all the time...and girls once in a blue moon. You are proving to be an exception to the myth.
Very sincerely sit him down and explain to him that you would prefer More...A great.....Deal....More.
Give him a chance to rev it up. Or if you really are sure that he's the one no matter how little sex he wants...I recommend a wide selection of erotic toys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006): If it's just the sex itself he may well be waiting for the right moment (ie after you're married) esp if it's close at hand. On the other hand, if this man himself does not initiate or help create memorable 'intimate' (and by that I mean very physical even near sexual) experiences between the both of you, he is not attracted to you in a completely natural way.This may be due to :his own stigmas (esp as you say he laughs it off and calls you a horndog) this to me seems like a clear sign of psychological issues ie shifting blame techniqueReligious/Moral reasonsStress(Hidden Stress) of numerous reasons Wavering his current decision on the finality of your relationship together.I'm sorry to put this last one in but if he's ethical and he may not want to continue the relationship this may be a good tactic to help himself feel better about breaking up w/u in the future if he should decide to do so.Still all dumb doubts aside, communication is key. Try raising the above in a tactical way and maybe you two can work it out.Best of Luck!MZK
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