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writes:I am due to get married in June 2007 and I'm having doubts about this. I love my fiance dearly but both of our families have been overbearing with the wedding plans, so much so, that I actually cancelled the original 'big white wedding' we had planned and opted for a more intimate one.Some of my friends and family feel that my fiance doesn't put me first (his friends and family seem to be more important) and this upsets me as they seem to think I'm a pushover but they don't realise that my fiance has met his match! I don't want to be with anyone else and neither does he so why am I feeling like this??? Any advice would be appreciated!!!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Your fiancee will be trying to please everyone but you SHOULD come first, it's you and his day after all. Don't listen to anyone else, listen to your gut instinct. Do YOU feel he puts you first in all of this? Your answer will tell you whether or not you are both ready to go ahead with this. If you have any doubts in your mind whatsoever then I would cancel the whole thing until you ARE 100% sure you are his main priority in all of this.
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reader, Simple.Compassion  +, writes (6 February 2007):
Well, I would say take a step back from the situation.
Why do your friends and family think he doesnt put you first? (you may want to actually answer these questions in your head)
Are their reasons misunderstood? Or do they actually make some sense?
Maybe your friends and family have a point, even if its not exactly what they are saying. Before getting married you want to think about he will be like in years and years to come. (I know you've probably heard this all before) but just think about how the things he does now may evolve over the years.
If you've got some doubts, maybe you should just wait some time. Let your friends and family see how he doesnt not put you first. Maybe they don't see it right, but maybe your over looking things too. Because when many of the people around you all think the same thing, it gives it a bit more of a validity. Just don't automatically think theyre wrong, because they may see something you don't...we all know love can do that.
I hope this helps and that you get your situation all worked out =)
Good luck,
~Ria
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reader, cd206 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Do you think your boyfriend puts you first? Because that's really all that matters. Your family should be supporting you in the run up to your big day. If you had any doubts then I'd advise you to postpone the wedding until you'd had the chance to deal with them but since you seem sure that this guy is right for you then ask your family to accept this is the guy you're going to marry and that he makes you happy.
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