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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Okay i dated this girl for a while and wasn't very keen on the relationship because my parents and immediate family did not like her.Personally i can say she is a good girl but due to her rough past, my family did not think she was a perfect match.She has had it rough in life, abusive relationships,both her parents being diagnosed with cancer, previous lump removed from breast surgically and has a lot of brownish moles across her skin like freckles but she says they could be cancerous once they change colour or grow.Thing is she completely loves me and i feel it is wrong to deprive someone of love for fear that they might not live too long or fear that they would only bring baggage into your life.The early stages of our relationship were a down-throw cos she was always sad and down and constantly ill... She has gone through stages of ulcer and almost having an operation for it to stages of coughing and blood coming out.She has constantly been to the doctors and they don't know why this is happening.Now things like this scare me because if i put up a fight with my parents about her and things go sour up the road i would look like a big fool.She totally loves me and i have no doubt about that and she will be willing to go anywhere with me but i intend going to Africa in a while for good or at least a very long time and from my little research those moules are caused by sunlight.This is another fear because i don't want to take her somewhere she could develop cancer or any sort from.what are your takes on this please?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2012): Hello. Honestly, you are of age, so to hell with what your family thinks. Don't let them stand in the way of being with the one you love. I commend you for sticking by her side and showing you care by wanting to research the moles and stuff. That shows that you really do love her, regardless of the way she looks. We need more men like you in the world! My advice to you would be to go with your gut instict. If you want to have a future with this girl, you're not going to get it with all the negative energy your family is giving off. If I were you, I'd go away with her. Be with her. Love her.
Best of luck :)
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