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My family blackmailed me!

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Question - (16 October 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 17 October 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *ysterygirl803 writes:

My sister and my brother were blackmailing me because they found out that I was having a romantic relationship with my cousin and they treated me really bad, calling me names and everything. They blackmailed me for revennge with exposing my secret to my mother and it was done for over a couple of months until my sister followed true and told my mother about it. My mother seperated us and she has me under watch even though im 21 and he is 36. She blackmailed us that we were going to pay for what happened and she gave him 2 months to leave the country. Its been a month already and Now we saw each other but didnot say anything and didnt do anything, however, my sister saw and told my mother right away. Now she has been texting me and threatening that we both are going to pay and that she is going to deport him for this that he had no fault on. I thought of going to the police to make some sort of report but I dont know. What can we do to stop this?? We live in chicago il, USA. please help!!!

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A male reader, Orpheous Greece +, writes (17 October 2010):

Is it your first cousin or distant one? Move for some months till your family calms down...

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A female reader, gabbycristal United States +, writes (17 October 2010):

i am sorry for what is happ to you i would sugg you leave with him yall are two adults capable of making yall own decisions

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A male reader, Cerberus_Raphael Sweden +, writes (17 October 2010):

Cerberus_Raphael agony auntMoving to a state where your sort of relationship is legal. I know you love you mom but you just cannot accept her trying to force you how to live your life like this. She has shown her discomfort and you are aware of it, that is all she can and SHOULD expect you to do. She has no right to make you 'pay' for making your choices, it just is not right. So like I said, move to another state.

I hope that helps.

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A female reader, mysterygirl803 United States +, writes (16 October 2010):

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Well thanks guys, and I was doing some research and I found out the same time about deportation. And I agree about me trying to move out out state and that is what we are thinking of doing, however, if I move out of my house my mother will make more problems and I dont know how to stand up to her. We were really close to her and we dissapointed her, but it happened. We fell in love and we want to be together. It's hard because my mother is texting me and telling that she is tired of all of this and that she is going to keep an eye on me. And that we will pay for what we did. And now its really hard for me because I do love my mom, and I do want to move out but Im afraid that she might do something to him or me. My mother is really angry at us and she doesnt want me to see him. And now with what happened I dont know if Ill see in secret. update: today she called me and told me why did i disobeyed her and that if she suspected more she was going to have some sort of detective follow me around to see what I was doing all the time. So what do you guys think I should do??

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A male reader, Cerberus_Raphael Sweden +, writes (16 October 2010):

Cerberus_Raphael agony auntThen just leave them if you can. Why should you just sit as your family shoves you through hell? You are 21 years old, is there no way for your to leave your state? You should not have to suffer through blackmail from your own family.

Though I do not support this sort of relationship, is he at the very least, your third cousin? Because I hear that's accepted in some states in America. Move there and just be careful.

I hope that helps.

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A male reader, Orpheous Greece +, writes (16 October 2010):

You are 21 y/o. You can have a decision that includes only you and noone can interfere with this decision... If the guy is over 18 he can make decisions of his own. As i read your sister isn't mature even when she is 36! You can move freely to another place and noone can hurt you. I wouldn't have a special bond with a family blackmailing me...

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