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*ternal8eclipse
writes:Please help me! I was in a bad relationship for 3 years and even lived with my ex's family for about a year and in that time I fell for my ex's younger brother. Since my ex was hardly ever around and his brother was, we found out we had more in common and had a strong connection and attraction for each other we couldn't fight off. I know it's wrong, but as time passed I realized I made a big mistake and should've picked the younger brother but it was too late. We ended up sleeping together more times than we should have and we have both admitted we have more than sexual feelings for each other but I really did want to do everything I could to make my relationship work so I stopped completely. Even during Katrina when I thought my family had died we spent weeks together with no food and were homeless for a while once again his younger brother talked to me more than my own boyfriend. To put it simply my ex didn't treat me right and everyone saw it but I felt so guilty about what I had done with his younger brother I tolerated it. I really wanted to do everything I could to make my relationship work and even stayed faithful for a year but the more devoted I was the more he pushed me away. When we finally broke up It took a months to even think of anyone again because I was pretty devastated from the break-up but I couldn't see myself being with my ex again or anyone else, his brother was and has been the only one I can picture myself with. It's been a year since the breakup and even after my mother passing away in May and my graduation my ex still won't speak to me but his brother is still there for me. We've had sex twice since the breakup and it kills me because I want to be with him more and spend more time together but he says he can't let anyone find out about us and that his older brother will "kill him" and he can't do that to his brother but yet it's okay to sleep with me every few weeks? I love him, I always have and he's been such a big part of my life I don't want to give up on him because I can relate to where he's comming from but I don't want to be "played" and "used" either. What should I do?
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reader, eternal8eclipse +, writes (27 September 2007):
eternal8eclipse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice:)
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reader, drastic knowledge +, writes (27 September 2007):
 i think you need to walk away its done
hewants you for sex nothing more and he gets it if he cared and wanted you he would be with you now no mater what so give him up and find better
best of luck
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