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writes:My ex and I split up a year ago and the other day he contacted me out of the blue to say he was sorry about how things ended between us. He wants to meet up next month so I said ok.He has been talking to me very strange though, he has said that he misses me and keeps talking about our past together and all of our intimate times together which I find odd because he has a girlfriend at the minute. Is he having the grass isn't always greener thing? I just don't know. I'm confused now about everything. I need to know what's going on! Many thanks.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 October 2017):
 It took him a year to apologize? I bet he hasn't spent the whole year building up to this! My bet is he is bored and wants to meet up with you to see how far you will go. My advice would be not to meet up with him and ask him not to contact you again. He has a girlfriend so it is clear he is not looking for another, I doubt he feels the grass is greener after a whole year its more than likely he is going through a boring spell and wants some attention. Honestly you can do better than going back to your past, keep moving forward and show him no attention.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (15 October 2017):
 Well, nice as it seems for him to apologize for his behaviour, I suspect he is only "apologizing" as a foot through the door to seeing you. It would have meant a lot more if he had apologized and left it at that. He is only apologizing because the novelty has worn off his new relationship and he wants to see if he would be better off back with you.
Put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes. How would you feel if your boyfriend was contacting his ex behind your back? I bet she doesn't know about his slimy behaviour.
You know you are worth better. In your shoes, I would thank him for the apology but say that you don't think it is a good idea to meet as that is not fair on either you or his girlfriend, and leave it at that.
I hope you can be strong enough to do it. If not, then you cannot be surprised if he gets back with you and does the same to you further down the line.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 October 2017):
 Yep, I'm with Ciar
Don't meet up and cut the contact. This is going nowhere. If he has a GF and trying to meet up with you behind her back then he is up to no good.
He will try and butter you up so you will have sex with him or spend time rubbing his ego.
He is bored with his current GF or he feels she isn't giving him enough attention hence reaching out to you.
I mean, come on OP - what do you REALLY think will come of this? Would you date him again? Date a guy who is cheating on his current GF with his ex-GF? You really WANT to BE that woman?
He will use you and if you want more than just some casual sex, he will dump you in a heartbeat.
Seriously, like Ciar said, we have seen it SO MANY times here on DC.
I get it, it's flattering that he out of the blue can't get you out of his head a year after the break-up... But he isn't thinking of you. He is thinking of HIMSELF and what he MIGHT get away with.
Cancel the meetup, wish him well and block him. Do you really NEED this kind of drama in your life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2017): if you want to meet with him go ahead. He is in a relationship, not married. see what he has to say. Ask your questions if you wish, but don't give too much. Just listen. If he is interested in rekindling things and you are as well have him IMMEDIATELY end his relationship.This time of situation is oh too common, a lot of time the women end up being on the side so to avoid that let him know he must be single to rekindle anything at all. Let him know that right off the bat if he mentions getting to know you again. TRUST ME
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (15 October 2017):
 Cancel the meeting, via email, then block and delete him. Change your number if you have to and change your social network settings so that only friends can see your profile.
This scenario is a CLICHE. We read about this ALL THE TIME and your situation is exactly the same.
The ex (man or woman) reaches out and wants to make peace, feels bad for how things ended, regrets breaking up, still thinks fondly about the sex and wants to be friends. Blah, blah, blah.....same same...
Have nothing more to do with him. No fights, no confrontations, no questions, no demanding answers, just move on.
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