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writes:So New Year's Day would have been mine and my fiance's two year anniversary. I recently seperated. He was the love of my life. He still wants a relationship with me and wants to be my friend, but it's so difficult. I am hurting so bad right now, and seeing my future without him is a pain that I never thought I would face. He believes that he will never get married after this, but I want differently for myself. I still one day want a husband and want kids. I just don't know where to go from here. I can't see myself loving another man. I don't want to love anyone else, but he doesn't want me as his companion anymore. What I am scared of is that I might be pregnant with his child, but I can't face rejection from him again. The first time was too much as it is...how do I move on and learn to love someone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): My ex wants me back but he's hurt me in the past, how do i move on and find someone else? well my ex bf he hurted me in the past is how he slept with my cousin behind my back. and plus my other ex bf he went with my cousin and went with me because i didnt know this until he told me because me and him was together for 2 years. and i dont know wat to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe called me last night. He told me that he still loved and missed me...I don't know what he wants. It seems like when I finally start moving on he is always there holding me back. We argued, but then ended on a good note. Do you think he's trying to work things out or just toying with my emotions...or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): Hope this answers your question... when someone does that to you it plays with your mind.. you need to be really strong and take control here.. and ask yourself why someone would do such a thing if they are supposed to love you. you know the answer to that but when we are feeling hurt and vunerable we tend to not see things..you need to value yourself and ask yourself do you deserve to be treated this way? would you treat someone that way? if you really love someone and you know you cant be together for whatever reason you let them go and allow them to move on.
you too should move on to better things trust me its true.
it takes time and isnt easy but if you keep yourself busy,
and do things such as seeing your single friends more, joining a gym or excercise class , lose that few pounds you have beeb trying to get off.. get your hair done...
have a little bit of retail thearpy... and talk to your girlfiends about how your feeling..
book a holiday give yourself something to look forward too.
maybe you have always wanted to sign up for a college course..go do it..if there is one thing i know though experiance is yes if you want to give someone a second chance then go ahead but my advice is save yourself the heartache if a guy disrepects you move on you are worth so much more..love yourself and tell youself you are so precious...good luck.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (1 January 2008):
 As long as you can't see yourself being with someone else, you need to remain single This is a healing process, not a go find another guy to hopefully fix the problem process.
If he hurt you, he's not someone to be with. I keep studying relationships and have come to the conclusion that real, true love does not come with pain. You don't get hurt by the other person. What does cause pain is dependency, lack of respect, cheating (which is both dependent and lack of respect), jealousy (depedent), trust issues.
What you need to do is build yourself, your self respect and love for yourself. The more you do so the greater your skills will be in not only choosing someone who has the same for themselves, but also being strong with your boundaries of how you choose to be treated and not accepting less than that.
Every thing will work out. Finding love, marriage and kids is not a race. You have pleanty of time. I'd rather take my time and find something real, than to just settle.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (31 December 2007):
 As impossible as it seems, it is possible.
No matter how bad a situation seems it is always possible to find a solution.
The emotional wounds that a separation causes will eventually heal. But there are always scars left to remind you.
If you go on, which is a choice you must make on your own, the scars eventually become unimportant.
Once you make the choice to move on you will resolve it in your mind to find someone else and you will do things to attract other men.
The natural psychological processes will take hold and I am sure everything will work out for you. Hope this helps.
Doc
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